(Closed) Does this sound okay?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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gijanedoe:  It depends on what time you have your ceremony and reception. If the reception spans a time period when people would normally be having a meal, they will expect one. The Colonial Tea would make a nice light lunch but not sufficient for a dinner (evening meal).

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

What time is your ceremony and reception?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

If you were a family or close friend I would attend your ceremony only but if I knew cake and punch is all your serving at your reception and not even alcohol than I wouldn’t even bother attending your reception I rather get dinner after the ceremony than head home.  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

If they are your family and friends than yes they would come but with only 30 guest why can’t you offer them a meal?

If you have the reception at noon or 1pm I would be starving because that is normally time when people eat lunch and I don’t want cake for lunch. Don’t get me wrong I like cake but I would want something a little more filling for lunch. Could you offer sandwiches or even pizza? than have cake and punch for dessert afterwards. You don’t even really need a dessert bar if you are having only 30 guests. Just a suggestion.

Honestly its your wedding you can do whatever you want. I would rather feed my guest something other than just cake and punch for lunch?

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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gijanedoe:  

That being said, do you still think they wouldn’t want to come to reception? 

Not to worry. People who love you will happily celebrate with you without alcohol. I had an early afternoon ceremony followed by non-alcoholic punch and appies because both my parents were alcoholics and I didn’t want to risk their behavior.

The majority of people can have a good time without alcohol.

 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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gijanedoe:  I am usually stuffed when we go for afternoon tea, and it does not inlude quiche or soup. Maybe you could see if they would serve a smaller cup of soup with the quiche or salad. When you add that to the sandwiches, scone and sweets, there will be more than enough food.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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gijanedoe:  That’s a great idea.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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gijanedoe:  If I was a college student on a very tight budget I would just elope at a court house and save the money I am paying for an officant. My officant is costing us $200 but she normally charges over $300 towards dinner for my close family and friends. For the ceremony I would just ask a close family and friend read the ceremony script and have a ceremony for show than get a private room at a fancy restaurant and pay for all my guest to dine out. You don’t even need cake. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

You could have the ceremony at like 2 and then the tea at 3 or so? That should be clear for guests that it’s not a meal. You can also put on the invitations something like “Cake and afternoon tea to follow.”

Skip the candy bar. It’s things like that that are building your $2000 costs up to $5000 (per your previous post). No one will miss it, and honestly no one will expect it anyway. I also have seen way too many Bees post on these boards to say that no one ate from the candy bar, or they had a ton left over, and other complaints in which they all basically say the money would have been better elsewhere. (If I was a guest, I would also think it was a little weird that all I had was tea, one scone per person, and a piece of cake, but then you added a candy bar and other side items, none of which add up to a meal.)

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Sugar bee

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Moorea12:  this. Skip the candy bar / favours and use that budget elsewhere. 

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