Does this sound promising?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
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sarahj1238 :  

You made your move, now let things happen.  Pushy is not sexy.  Neither is desperate.  Part of the early stages of dating someone new and promising is learning to sit on your excitement and anxiety.

He sounds interested.  Give the man a chance to court you.  It’s a lovely experience.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

i mean…we don’t know this guy, but you don’t either. thats what makes first dates exciting but also potentially horrible and almost always confusing on one level or another. from your description it sounds like you really enjoyed the evening and the feeling was mutual. you expressed an interest in hanging out again and specifically when you’re free. at this point its on him to follow up. i hope he does. 🙂 keep us posted.

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sarahj1238 :   He said he would contact you.  Let him. 

I think it is a very good sign that he respected your other “plans” and didn’t push for you to stay longer.   

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Bumble bee
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Don’t work too hard.  If he’s interested he’ll make it happen. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana

Oh and go out with someone else while you’re waiting :-). No need to put all your eggs in one basket!

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sarahj1238 :  I think your text to him was just fine, but agree with pp that the ball is in his court now. Hopefully you’ll hear from him soon! If you don’t, onto the next. 

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sharkey38 :  

Exactly.  I notice a tendency around here for Bees to waaaayyy over invest after one good date.

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sarahj1238 :  

Try to be more in the moment when you’re on a date.  Don’t focus on whether he likes you enough to want to see you again. Just enjoy what you’re doing.  Let go of expectations.

The women that men find most appealing are the ones they know are not just seeking a relationship, any old relationship.  Healthy guys are attracted to busy, independent women.

Be receptive, but, not overly available.  And definitely, do not chase this guy or any other.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I don’t believe in playing games so I would initiate a text. He has been texting you first since your date so maybe he wants to see if you’re interested enough to text him first? If I was always initiating contact with someone I was dating I would probably be concerned that they were not as into it as I am, maybe he feels the same? 

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sarahj1238 :  

Whoa.  Wait.

He texted you on Saturday for a Saturday night date?  No, bad form.  And a bit impolite.

The day after your second date, he texted you ‘all day’?  There is nothing to like about that sentence.  He’s coming on much too strong.

He doesn’t know you well enough to be very into you.  There’s another agenda here.

 I would not text him, Bee.  And I would definitely slow things down if/when he resurfaces.

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