(Closed) Does this woman hate me??

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t want to say she doesn’t like you because who knows what’s up with her but she certainly doesn’t sound like the kindest person on earth. I would go with my gut on this one though…usually your gut is right. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Dislike? Maybe. Maybe not. Hate? Probably not. It sounds like she’s just a bit socially awkward and inconsiderate. It happens. That being said, if what’s she’s doing for the wedding is really important, it’s totally okay to want to make sure everything is on track. I’m assuming you aren’t bugging her about this on a daily basis, so she would be replying to you. Maybe ask your fiance to ask how things are progressing – it’s his wedding as well so you could just put him in charge of making sure she follows through.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

There’s definitely something off about her but that doesn’t mean it has anything to do with you. Maybe she’s just socially inept and bad at being around other women.

Post # 6
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5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

why do you want to be friends with her?  She sounds snobby and self-absorbed.  I’d keep the contact to a minimum.

Post # 7
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5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

If I were you I would just go buy the thing she offered to give you. She doesnt seem like a very friendly or nice person. And the fact that she isnt even messaging you back is just down right rude! It’s like she knows you want something from her but is purposely playing a game to keep you from getting it! I would be so annoyed and wouldnt even bother to waste my time on her anymore.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

People will always SHOW youwith their Actions how they really feel about you rather than anything they say – and with what you have said here I would say she is not your biggest fan!!  Perhapsyou do not live your life as she would hers – BUT that is no reason to judge you as she seems to be doing – perhaps she needs to learn some decorum! 

I would not rely on her – in fact I would send her a message and copy your Fiance and say that thanks for offereing to get Blank Blank for the wedding but you found it yourself so went ahead and as you did not receive a reply did not wish to bother her as she must clearly have been busy!! 

Let it go as much as you can otherwise she will start to control your thoughts more than she should be! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, she sounds pleasant (sarcasm).  I feel for you but try not to take it too hard, it’s not your fault.  Obviously she has issues.  It could be that she’s jealous of you.  It could be that she’s just not a warm or kind person by nature.  It could also be that she doesn’t like you for whatever reason.

More importantly, though, this woman is not good for you to be around, so avoid her if you possibly can.  It does not matter, really, if she likes you or does not like you.  It matters that she does not treat you well.  And you don’t deserve that!  Just “don’t like her” back and keep your distance if you possibly can.  What a b-tch!

((Hugs))

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

yaa its hard to judge without knowing her, but to me it sounds a little like she doesn’t like you. I would get Fiance to ask her and if she is still vague or unresponsive then  I would go ahead and do it myself because who knows if she is planning to or not.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d cut her loose and then just be polite/civil to her, no need to go out of your way to make her a friend. You sound like you were very nice to her but she’s not receptive so that’s her problem.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Question- was she at any point friends with your FI’s ex girlfriend? That’s what I would guess! I don’t think you should rely on someone who makes it known she’s not your friend!

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ticatica:  You could try talking to her but it might open you up to more of her vitriol.  If you can’t avoid her then take the high road.  Kill her with kindness.  At the very least you can be as purposely annoying as possible just to have some fun with it. 

As far as being upset about it, it’s unreasonable to think that in life everyone will like you.  Most people will, if you treat them well, but some people just won’t for their own personal reasons.  Maybe you remind her of someone from the third grade who peed in her cornflakes.  It really doesn’t matter.  Make the decision that YOUR opinion of you is what matters, not anyone else’s.

Post # 15
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5662 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Kinda sounds to me like this girl doesn’t like HERSELF which means she’s unable to just be a nice person. I’d cut your losses, and just let it go with her and know, it’s not you, it’s her, truly.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@Angkinah:  Agree with this. Just go and buy what you need. I don’t think it’s bad that you’d rather be friends with her but if she doesn’t want to be your friend, there is nothing that you can do about that. If I were you, I’d just remain pleasant but no visiting and staying at your house if her Darling Husband is not with you. Doesn’t matter if they’ve been friends since forever. Just be cordial and leave it at that. It hurts especially since you thought you guys were cool. It doesn’t matter if she badmouths you to your Darling Husband, guys are not really into gossip like that. And he wouldn’t believe her anyways. If you don’t spend alone time with her, where’s she going to get ‘dirt’ on you?

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