- 6 years ago
Hey blue frog! I’m waiting myself and YES IT FEELS LIKE A FOOLS EARRAND lol. It can be sooooo stressful and it does feel like sometimes you want to throw in the towel. You can read blogs, join groups, buy books, do whatever you have to do, but at the end of the day there are a lot of us out there who meet a man who we feel is very wonderful and we want to get married but are stuck in limbo.
I had my 3 year anniversary last week (Which I’ve already posted 2x about in waiting lol), and no proposal. Kinda thought there would be a proposal or maybe a ted style conversation (I know you want to get married, no this isn’t a ring BUT….) and not-a-thing. UGH UGH UGH.
My BFs problem is that he is not ready because he is not done with school. I do love him so much that I want him to achieve his dreams of finishing and I am doing my absolute best to support him and not ‘pressuring’ him (yes, to my Boyfriend or Best Friend talking about it is pressure too), so that my dreams of being his wife can come true. Waiting is hard. I actually recently posted about changing my ‘walk’ date, because for me, my walk date didn’t mean the day i would walk down the isle, rather, the date I would walk out of the relationship. I realized that my date was too soon for both my Boyfriend or Best Friend to achieve his goals and for us to be married….and I realized that I love him more than enough to allow him more time.
I think the best we can do is try and focus on ourselves, less on being married, and honestly try to live without it.
side note: i am patiend and love my Boyfriend or Best Friend enough to support him in finishing school HOWEVER, we are 27 and 30 and if he takes 5 years to finish school or graduates next year and there is no proposal within the next year, i would just plain resent him too much to stay. you do have to be true to yourself and your desires and realize when someone may never put you first because they are always putting themselves first. sorry for the novel. GOOD LUCK!