- 10 years ago
I know with the holidays upon us engagements are on the mind of anyone in a serious relationship. I mean, who doesn’t know at least 3 couples who have gotten engaged in the past few weeks? Not to mention the flood of “I’m engaged” postings on the walls of this site! For most of the year, many couples constantly have these engagement thoughts on the back burners of their minds, but I feel like recently it is all out in the open. Even couples that I know that normally are quiet about these matters have been pretty outspoken in the past few weeks. I feel like once one or 2 couples have it happen to them, it just opens up Pandora’s box and all of the sudden every couple around them feels the need to get engaged right then and there!
I know with my BF’s group of friends this is definitely the case. This past year has been the year of couples getting engaged super-fast. I’m talking “dating less than a year and getting engaged” fast. That is totally fine as long as you know you are ready, but I feel like in all 3 of these cases one person in the relationship was not ready (either the girl was caught way off-guard or the guy was seriously pressured into it). I guess it just concerns me because I really like these people and I don’t want to see them get hurt. I am a child of a divorce and it is something that really scares me. Now, I’m not saying that these couples should not get married–they may all be totally fine–I’m just saying that if you don’t totally know someone (as in one of the cases) it just scares me that something may happen down the line. And what is scaring me more is that now just about every couple in said group of friends is talking engagement. They all like to follow the leader, and this is no exception. What happened to just doing it when you are ready? It all seems so competetive right now! A few couples I know had been saying that they probably wouldn’t do it for a few more years, and now in the midst of engagement season they are ready to jump the gun! I wonder if they will feel the same way in a month or so after some of this has died down?
What kind of sucks for my BF and I is that we have been dating twice as long as any couple we know and we are actually talking engagement (as we are purchasing a house) but it looks like we are just riding the engagment train like everyone else. I hope this isn’t making me sound like a b***h, I just feel like some of these people are feeling the pressure around them and that is making them want to rush into it more. I’m not saying that there is a certain time period you have to wait to get engaged–some people know only months in! I’m just saying that with commercials, the holidays, and engagements all around, I feel like there are a lot of people I know who are getting a case of “the engagements” around now. Many of you girls on here have been waiting more than long enough and this post does not refer to you, I am only referring to the people I know who have said themselves recently that they are not ready, but all of the sudden they are ready to drop to one knee at any second!
Do any of you feel the same way??