I am a Bee who believes that a couple is still always made up of 2 individuals… and so therefore in order to have a “healthy” relationship they need to have a good set of healthy self-interests… including friends, activities etc.
Hey I LOVE spending as much time as I can with Mr TTR, but I recognize that being the best we can be as two seperate people, means we are a better couple when we are together (and gives us much to talk about as well)
So ya, I’d want my man to have things he does with “just the guys”… including a Guys Weekend Away – Weeklong Trip etc
Now that doesn’t mean it is a free-for-all… I’ve never had any reason to not trust Mr TTR because we have common beliefs about the boundaries in our relationship, so for example, altho some of his guy-friends might enjoy a visit to a Strip Club, I know that this isn’t something that Mr TTR enjoys (he finds them skanky) so I never have to worry about that sort of thing
His idea of a Guy’s Outing / Get Away / Trip might be…
A road-trip to another city for a Baseball or Football Game … or a Vacation for a Guy’s Only Golf Week
BOTH of these are the types of things he does regularly (a few times a year)
Likewise, I and my GFs might head off to a condo in the Mountains, a Cottage on a Lake, a visit to a nearby Winery Area… or a week in the sunshine
And we have fun with our friends, but are very HAPPY & EAGER… *wink”
To see each other when the get away is over… and often that means meeting the other at the Bus or Train Station, Airport… or front door with a big hug & kiss (maybe some flowers)
Going away with friends can be rejuevenating…
Coming home to your Honey with a familiar “bed” can do amazing things “spark wise” for a relationship.
Hope this helps,
PS… We are considerate of the other however… more often than not we give each other PLENTY OF WARNING… like Months in advance… sometimes weeks. Never days. Our getaways are a scheduled element of our life as individuals (and like other trips typically involve a lot a planning… especially so if there are say 4 or 6 friends going), so not something we just “spring on the other person” out of nowhere.