(Closed) Does your dress match your venue? Do dress and venue themes matter?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Does the dress need to match the venue?
    Yes, you should opt for something more appropriate to the venue. : (5 votes)
    8 %
    Depends on how you theme/decorate the venue. : (7 votes)
    12 %
    Nope, you can wear whatever you want! Rules like that don't really apply to today's bride. : (48 votes)
    80 %
  • Post # 3
    658 posts
    Busy bee

    Your dress style sounds amazing, don’t change it for something you don’t want as much just to fit some silly rule. I’m of the opinion that those rules are kind of stuffy and outdated. 

    Post # 4
    4687 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    @FutureLadyL:  your theme sounds amazing!! you can’t go wrong. I’m sure it will look cohesive; that setting is absolutely amazing. 

    I just think it’s strange when its a beach wedding or bbq and the bride has a SUPER formal dress.

    My venue, like yours, was 1920’s…  but arts & craft style. I wore a Gatsby-themed dress but no one picked up on my theme haha!


    venue (a museum):


    My dress:

    Post # 5
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I agree

    I’m wearing a mermaid too with ruffles and maybe it’s over the top for my Banquet Hall Venue but I don’t care…the Bride is suppose to be the BEST dress there. Someone said to me nobody cares about anything else but what the bride is wearing. So look and feel your BEST that day. Good luck

    Post # 6
    1607 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    oh god my dress didnt match anything about my venue. My venue was a speakeasy-style bar/resto and my dress was…well… not vintage




    andddd totally unrelated



    get what you LIKE!

    Post # 7
    784 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @FutureLadyL:  I don’t think your dress has to go with the venue, unless you are doing a full on theme (like halloween or something).  The only other exception is to match the overall formality and budget – it’s not classy to wear a 10k couture dress at a cake-and-punch reception.

    Post # 8
    3400 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I don’t even understand the idea of a dress “matching” or “not matching” a venue..

    I can see if one is over-the-top formal and the other is super laid bad &/or inexpensive, but otherwise, pretty ir pretty and ugly is ugly.

    If you have a pretty dress, it’s gonna look just a pretty regardless of the venue 🙂

    I have no idea if my dress “matched” our venue. You tell me! 😛

    Post # 9
    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @FutureLadyL:  The only time I think it matters is when the dress is wildly out of sync with the formality level of the rest of the event (giant ballgown with cathedral-length train at backyard BBQ) or inappropriate in terms of comfortable attire for the setting (don’t make yourself miserable by wearing forty pounds of duchess satin on a Mexican beach in July).

    My setting is a Victorian house, my dress is a fifties wiggle dress, and I don’t care if they “match”- I love them both.



    Post # 10
    2076 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

    Am I supposed to blend in with my venue and wear a camouflage wedding dress?

    Just kidding.

    My venue:

    My dress (sample size; actual dress is being fitted right now)

    I don’t think they match at all.

    Post # 11
    1649 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @FutureLadyL:  doesn’t matter, where whatever makes you feel amazing! 

    Post # 12
    1649 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @FutureLadyL:  doesn’t matter, where whatever makes you feel amazing! 

    Post # 13
    3857 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    DEFINITELY get the ruffly mermaid. I know that venue and when I think of it, I think “fancy.” I think you can certainly set the tone with your dress, but I don’t think it necessarily has to fit with your venue. I think it really comes down to how invested you are in a “theme” or a “feeling” from your wedding. 

    Post # 14
    2087 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m not sure?? How do you know if your dress matches or not?  I’ve never really thought about it!

    Post # 15
    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    @FutureLadyL:  ooh! Something I have such opinions about!  

    In terms of theme. unless you go costume, no one will notice so don’t worry about it. 

    It is also easy to tell if the formality of your dress is wildly out of whack with your venue. I also wouldn’t worry about that. 

    What I think people should consider is the functionality of their space. I see you have a crazy beautiful estate venue. Seriously, so amazing.  What comes with a venue is more space considerations than say a large church or ballroom. Stairways, hallways, steps, smaller rooms and probably a smaller scaled dining room. You should get the dress you want but also think about the functionality of moving around in your space with lots of people and a lot of dress. 

    For example, at first thought I might want a very simple dress with some serious structural drama going on. But when we decided on our (amazing) restaurant venue I started to picture moving around with a lot of dress and a lot of people in that intimate space. I didn’t like the idea of having to struggle to move between tables to visit people. I ended up falling for a sheath dress with more drama in the draping and a killer faux-illusion back that I know will limit my movement in my space. 

    Post # 16
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @FutureLadyL:  Nope. Got married last week at the courthouse in a reem acra. I loved every part of it, including the dress. I dont think you have to match the dress to the venue at all

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