(Closed) Does your FI / FH help you with most of the housework?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Does your FI/FH help you with most of the housework?

    I do most of the housework, he just needs to keep the house in order, and help whenever he can.

    My husband is wonderful man, he helps me with most of the housework without me asking.

    My husband helps me with most of the housework, but I have to ask/remind him.

    We does half way each, and deviding the tasks (list below what he does)

    I clean my mess, and he cleans up hiss mess.

  • Post # 62
    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Our rule is I clean the house and he does the dishes…


    My mom always said that no matter what the husband does or does not do with the house work people will always look at the wife. 

    Post # 63
    90 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m spoiled in this department, I think! My Fiance used to do the dishes EVERY SINGLE night. We had an agreement- whoever cooks doesn’t have to do the dishes….and I always cooked, so he always did the dishes. No complaints. This has since decreased a bit, but he’s still pretty good about it. 

    He takes care of the outside and I take care of the inside. That’s our other agreement. Any time i ask for help around the house he says “Babe- we agreed. You have the inside and I have the outside!”

    He’ll do laundry occasionally and he also is good about straightening up. Especially if I’ve had a long week with work–sometimes I’ll come home and he will have the whole house straightened. (He makes his own hours at work and has a lot more flexibility)

    Post # 64
    9050 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I didn’t read all the previous posts, but he “helps” me with the housework kind of insinuates that household duties are mine, when we both should have equal responsibility for the operation of our household. 

    We both work more than full time.  He’s more picky about cleanliness than I am, so he tends to do most of the cleaning type tasks (dishes, cleaning bathrooms, taking out the garbage, vacuuming, etc) and everything to do with our cars – arranging for repairs, maintenance and washing them.  I never have to ask him to do any of these things, and in fact because his weekend starts before mine, I often have to actually ask him to NOT do these chores on Friday while i’m at work, so I even get a chance to do my fair share.  But really, he always says he prefers to just do it while he’s hanging out in the day alone on Friday rather than having to waste our weekend cleaning.  So, good enough for me!

    I tend to dust, do laundry, cook all the meals including packing his lunch, handle our schedule; do most things that would be considered an ‘errand’, like picking up/dropping off dry cleaning or movies, choosing cards/gifts and mailing them away; research most of our major purchases, and make any travel arrangements either of us requires.

    Post # 65
    33 posts
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think overall I have a good man. Right now I’m not working so I do about all the chores except that he will still cook once in awhile and takes garbage out but when we were both working equally the chores where done equally by whomever got to it. He’d do laundry, cooking, dishes (and not just loading the dishwasher and turning it on), and whatever else needed done without asking. I’d usually do the bathroom and dusting just because I was a little more anal than him. Heck when we lived separately he’d come over to my place and mow the lawn while I was at work while he used my washing machine and then take my dogs for a walk. And I’d go over to his place and dust and scrub down his bathroom once in awhile to surprise him. I’m just lucky he has good aim so I don’t really have issues with toilets. But I do admit at times he has to be reminded to do something with one of his projects laying around.

    Post # 66
    261 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I am spoiled, or maybe just lazy, but my Fiance does the majority of the cleaning. I’m in med school and he works 9-5, so not much cleaning or cooking gets done during the week… I try to use housework as an excuse not to study, but that only works when he is not there to stop me 😛

    Post # 67
    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Well, he cooks and cleans the garden, i clan the bedroom.

    We have someone who helps clean the house that comes 3 times a week, but im not sure for how long we’ll be able to keep her 🙁

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