Post # 1
Let me preface by saying, I have no problem with bachelor parties…as long as nothing inappropriate happens. My Fiance has adamantly said he doesn’t want one, despite me telling him it’s REALLY OK with me, as long as no other woman touches him (and vice versa) in any way, go for it. His best friend wants to take him to Vegas for a weekend, which I think would be fun for him, but he acts like the whole thing is ridiculous. His best friend also said he didn’t want one, and now teases my Fiance for never throwing him one…so he says it’ll be like one party for both of them. I was just wondering if this is normal, for a guy to ‘pretend’ he doesn’t want one when he really does? Or did anyone elses’s Fiance truly not want one? I don’t want to push him if he really doesn’t, but I don’t want him to miss out on having any fun either (maybe that makes me the crazy one LOL). I’m find either way, as long as it’s something he can afford (of course) I think it’d be a great weekend for them!
Post # 3
@MerryWidow: Maybe he doesn’t want a traditional one with the girls?
My Fiance is going camping with some friends. Maybe bring that up? He doesn’t have to do the normal but maybe just a guys weekend!
But yes it is normal 🙂
Post # 4
I think lots of guys don’t want one. Especially if they don’t have a big group of friends. Vegas sounds risky to me though.
Post # 5
My husband wanted one. They went to a casino for an overnight…ate a bunch of food, drank a lot and gambled a lot. He said they had fun!
Post # 6
My Fiance has said he’d love to go golfing with his friends, then out for drinks at a bar. Nothing crazy, no strip clubs, no party buses, etc.
Maybe Vegas isn’t your guy’s thing, but perhaps he’d enjoy something in town that is more low-key. What about a baseball or football game (if he likes sports), golf with buddies, or a camping trip?
If he insists that he really doesn’t want a bachelor party even after you suggest these more “normal,” mellow activities, I wouldn’t worry about it. I don’t think it’s weird if he opts out.
Post # 7
My Fiance says he might want one, but I think he might just go to Niagara Falls or a football/hockey game. He’s not really into the strippers and gambling scene.
Post # 8
Camping trip or casino both sound like good ideas to me! If your fiance isn’t normally the crazy go out and party type, he shouldn’t do something out of character–just waht he feels comfortable with!
Post # 9
My Fiance is having a bachelor party. They’re going paintballing, then going to Niagra Falls to a comedy club, then to a casino and then to party all night in their hotel room. No strippers or anything like that. It’s still called a bachelor party. If he really doesn’t want any kind of party, I guess that’s fine?
Post # 10
All good suggestions!! Honestly, I don’t care what he does…I just don’t want him to say no to it now and then think ‘Aww man’ after the fact. He’s a pain sometimes, he had a rough upbringing and life before we met, so sometimes I think he doesn’t feel like he actually deserves anything good. Sometimes it’s cute (and makes gift giving REALLY easy LOL) but others I just want to smack him and say ‘You deserve to have fun!!’ Oh well. We’ll see what happens. Honestly, knowing both the guys like I do…even Vegas would probably be boring to me…Fiance hates gambling and his friend rarely drinks!!
Post # 11
Mr C. doesn’t like the whole typical bachelor party and has said that he wants to either skip it altogether or to have a casual pizza and film fest of some sort with friends. I think that the most important components for a bachelor or bachelorette party are that both bride and groom are comfortable and that whatever party occurs suits their styles 🙂
Post # 12
I think Fiance is having one because all his buddies insist, but he really doesn’t want one. Not a typicall one atleast. His idea of a good time is him and his friends hanging out & cooking food for our wedding. haha. Sounds boring, but atleast I don’t have to worry about him getting into trouble.
Post # 13
@MerryWidow: I think you have a good attitude, and you just shouldn’t worry about it too much and let him decide. If you’ve told him you don’t care if he has one – then it’s up to him. Don’t push him either way since it’s his decision. 🙂
Post # 14
My Fiance doesn’t want one. I think I will suggest to his best friend to put together a camping trip or something though as that is MUCH more his style.
Post # 15
My husband wanted one, but not a stereotypical one. From pretty much the day after our engagement, he knew he wanted to go golfing and then go to Dave & Buster’s with the guys. He had a blast, and it was totally harmless. 🙂
Post # 16
My Fiance refuses to attend one unless I’m there too. We’re both past the party-in-vegas mentality, and he’s very anti-stripper, and whenever he’s out with just his friends he’s constantly texting me about how he wishes I was there too. We’re going to rent a beach house in Northern MI to drink and relax with our friends, which is way more our style than a night of bars and clubs.