(Closed) Does your fiance have input on wedding plans!

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Not at all!  My Fiance just mocks everything the whole time–talking about doing a Star Wars wedding, having a nacho cheese fountain, etc.  He does what he’s told to do, but he rarely has any opinions about anything.  Mostly his ideas relate to things he has seen at other people’s weddings (e.g., I don’t like that they stuff cake in each other’s faces, I really liked their first dance song, etc.).  

You are very lucky!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am blessed to have a Fiance that is very involved… almost to the point that it gets annoying, especially when he disagrees! But I love that he is excited, its a great feeling!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My fiance has seen too many episodes of My Big Redneck Wedding.  He’s always making jokes about redneck things we can do.  Thankfully he isn’t serious.  Typically I read blogs and magazines and get my own ideas and when I’m satisfied with my idea I bounce it off him.  Usually I get approval.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

My fiance is very supportive and has given me carte blanche over everything. I do ask his opinion on things though and he does have some good ideas. If I need something done for the wedding, he is more than happy to do it.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My FH is supplying the ideas, and I’m gonna make them happen. I never dreamed about my wedding, but it turns out he has some very definite ideas! Like he doesn’t want a wedding party, wants to see me in a sari or other Indian clothing (feels left out that he never has before), had a location in mind before he proposed, and even wants a certain color to be one of the wedding colors. For most of this, I’m on board with his ideas, but I’ll be darned if he thinks he can dress me like a Barbie at my own wedding! I’ll wear what I want to, within reason 🙂

Poor guy. He has a dream wedding and I don’t, so I’ll try to give it to him.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Regarding the Canadian wedding, he is a ‘yes man.’ His only role is to affirm everything I plan.

For the Korean wedding his role is to translate…and then say ‘yes.’ LOL

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Fiance is DEFINITELY involved in EVERY aspect of the wedding planning…our wedding is truly representative of US, both of us.  Now, on the “down” side, there have been many discussions, to make sure we’re on the same page, and many more to tediously discuss/argue about details that we need to compromise on or come up with new ideas for.  His involvement has definitely NOT simplified things, but I LOVE that our wedding will truly be “OURS” & about us BOTH…plus, I think these discussions are prepping us for the future decisions we’ll face as a married couple!

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

How exciting!! I think M will either be a yes or no ma’am guy lol!! with the exception of his “things” liquor, dj, catering. I am basically telling him what types of cocktails I want, the types of foods (with possible referrals) and for music I want to rock out lol!!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

He’s totally not.:-(  Definitely makes me sad @ times.  He is much more enthusiastic about BEING married (at times maybe even more than I am! LOL) than he is about GETTING married. We have very different tastes in a lot of things, so its partly maybe good that only one of us is doing most of the decision making. 

I try my best to think about what I know about him and what he likes and what he wouldn’t, and I am trying to make it as personal to the 2 of us as possible.  Hopefully he will really enjoy and appreciate our day and feel as though it IS special and magical & beautiful. 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@money: is he into things like music or cigars or that type of thing?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Crebre – no, he’s not into anything like that.  Soccer is his latest obsession, but I can’t really think of any cool way to include anything like that into the wedding (that wouldn’t totally clash with everything else).  Plus, he really doesn’t CARE about stuff, so if it involves spending more money to have something that he would like, he’d rather just not do it.  For instance, he LOVES crepes (chocolate & banana) and I thought about getting a crepe-table at the wedding, but he said he didn’t want that b/c it was unnecessary extra money.  He is also cuban & jamaican so I asked him if he wanted to have carribean-inspired food @ the reception & he said no b/c he didn’t know if people would 1) be able to make it well and 2) if it would be a crowd pleaser b/c everyone may not love those type of flavors.

So, it’s been hard trying to figure out how to include things that appeal to him and that would actually MEAN something to him.  I think that even if I did do that kind of stuff anyway (like get Jamaican curry and plaintains for dinner) he wouldn’t even be that impressed with it.  My mom is officiating (thank you, internet ordainment!), and I suggested also including his mom by getting her ordained & doing the vows jointly and he didn’t think that was a great idea (for possibly legitimate reasons, but still….)  He more cares that I am happy with everything–which I really appreciate–but I am really trying my best to make it about US instead of about ME but he’s not making it easy!!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wish my guy were a little less opinionated on what he thinks should/shouldn’t be in regards to our wedding! I really wish he would let his mom and I work it out – we’re on the same page and he’s determined to do the opposite of whatever we propose 95% of the time. ~sigh~

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

he’s completely involved– i wouldn’t make a decision without him. a lot of the ideas i had before we got engaged have completely gone out the window since we started planning together, which makes total sense because the wedding is about both of us, not just me. like, i originally wanted a more outdoor setting, and we’re having a synagogue/hotel wedding with catering by our favorite restaurant instead. and for our save the dates–i came up with the concept, which reflects details from his proposal, he got on board and helped create the photograph that we’re using. he even helped with my dress–he came with me to one store because neither my mom, his, nor my moh could make it, and helped narrow other options down via pics (of models in the dresses), although he backed out of seeing the actual dress finalists in person. the only time it was annoying was while registering–he didn’t like the flatware i loved–but oh well! haha, actually, the registry consultant told us after we went back to re-look at stuff that she had already been talking about him as an example of an excited, involved groom 🙂

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

Mr. Buttons is involved in some ways; I ask for his opinion, but in the end I know he is going to be supportive of my choices no matter what I pick…he’s quite agreeable 😉

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