Post # 1
like, i’ve always loved vintage engagement rings (art deco, art nouveau, edwardian). for years, i’ve coveted a ring in that style, but knew it’d never happen unless i had one custom made, or i won the lottery. anyway, i was browsing my favorite site for vintage rings today, and i stumbled across this one, which i stopped and stared at, because it’s so pretty.
so i showed the boy, who i was on skype with at the time. and he looked. and gave me the “ew, no” face. so i asked why. and he said “it’s too… girly. and old looking.” … girly? i’m a girl. i’m a girly girl no less. old looking? no, it’s vintage. (i also showed him this wedding ring, and was like, “i’d totally give up my dream of a fancy engagement ring and get a simple solitaire if i could have that as a wedding band”, and he said he hated it) i mean, yes. he’s paying for it. so i think he might have some bit of a say. but really. he doesn’t have to love it, right? i’m the one wearing it.
the question on my mind is this: does your fiance/SO like your ring? do you feel like they have to like it?
Post # 3
Mine likes mine. We designed it together!
Post # 4
@colorofmyheart: Mine said “yea”. But I don’t think he really cares, he just likes that I like it. I disliked the style of ring he planned on getting me (he proposed the day after we met with a cheap ring in that style, which I wore all the time for a couple months). He also didn’t like the style of ring I decided I liked originally, because he thought it was dated because his mom happened to have that style (which I was unaware of). I think you two should keep looking until you find something you both love, because the ring will say a lot about what he likes too, since everyone will assume he picked it.
Post # 5
Lol well I would think so since just like @Juliepants:
he worked with the jeweler to design it.
Post # 6
He loves my ring. He takes my hand and stares at it all the time. We picked it out together though.
Post # 7
Mine was just like your SO. He hated every ring I tried to show him. He picked something out on his own and althought I hated it when I first saw it because I was sooooo disappointed it wasn’t any of the rings I’d shown him. When I stopped thinking about all the other rings and saw the ring he had picked for me I realized it was really “me” and it was perfect. I know it’s hard, but trust your man will pick something that is you.
Post # 8
@colorofmyheart: Why don’t you buy that wedding band yourself as a RHR- I am going to be honest I think it is totally overpriced for what it is…I have one VERY similar that was purchased for $300!
Post # 9
I was torn between wanting a halo & the style I have now. He said no way to halo (“They’re hideous”). I also wanted an elongated cushion, but he wanted something symmetrical on all sides (he’s an engineer- he is weird about details like that lol). So, I did get the ring I wanted, within parameters 🙂
Post # 10
He loves mine and says he has never seen any other more beautiful ring. Plus we semi picked it out together.
Post # 11
Like a few other PP we designed it together, along with my wedding band, so yep he does like it. He said he wanted me to be happy with whatever we designed but we each put our imput into the final look to where he is happy with it too.
Post # 12
He loves it because he designed it! lol With every other ring I showed him he kept saying ‘they look the same’. So he designed my ring and now it’s cutom and one of a kind and he is so proud. 🙂 The other night my friends boyfriend commented on my ring and said he liked it because it was unique and different. I thought it was different to get a compliment from a man.
Post # 13
Well, he picked it, so of course!
OP, the ring was not what I’d envisioned when I saw it–that’s not to say I hated it, it was just unexpected. At first, I thought it was lovely because it really does represent who my DH is. Then, I realized that it really does more or less represent “us”–it’s exactly the kind of ring that my DH would go for–very declarative and architectural and clean-lined (he also wouldn’t do the whole flowery art nouveau thing!), but also delicate and balanced for me. Now, DH and I have moderately similar tastes so we may have had an easier time than you do if you have opposite tastes!
Another thing to remember, though, is that when it came time for me to choose my wedding band, I definitely chose what *I* wanted.
Post # 14
I originally wanted a solitaire, but when we started looking he really wanted to buy me a three stone ring. In the end we found one that I loved. I had the ‘this is it’ feeling and it was a three stone ring. It had elements that we both loved and I’m really happy to have a ring that he liked too 🙂
Post # 15
Why does it matter if he likes it? He isn’t wearing it! It’s a gift to you!
Post # 16
he hates halos, i love them. he hates frilly things, i love it. he was fine when i showed him the eternity setting i love, because it isn’t “girly”. i dunno. he and i have two completely different tastes when it comes to jewelry.
oh, i’d never pay that much for it. i’d have it made custom or something. $1400 is a lot for that ring. even if it’s so pretty and it’s so me. i may have to look into that. cause i do love it.