Post # 1
So bees, I’m watching SYTTD and I’m consistently BLOWN AWAY by these FMILs voicing such strong, loud mouthed opinions on their FDIL’s dress! I had to ask the hive:
Does YOUR Future Mother-In-Law get to have influence over your dress choice??
I don’t even know if I’m bringing my Future Mother-In-Law dress shopping with me when the time comes (probably not…) but if I did, it would be for the bonding experience…it would NOT be so that she could crush my dreams by saying she hates my dream dress, that I look fat in it, that it makes me look short, or it looks cheap. I would expect her to enjoy the experience and keep her mouth SHUT for the most part to be completely honest.
Are you bringing your Future Mother-In-Law dress shopping with you? If you are, why? If you’re not, why not? If you’ve already purchased your dress, did your FMIL/MIL come on the shopping trip?
Post # 3
I voted “other. My Mother-In-Law did not come dress shopping with me, but only beacuse she lives over 6 hours away. I wouldn’t have minded if she did come, I really like her, and even if she had a strong opinion we’re close enough I could have told her if I didn’t like something.
I don’t know many people who took their Mother-In-Law dress shopping with them. I always feel really bad for brides who don’t get along with their Mother-In-Law. 🙁
Post # 4
Haha were you watching the one with the shamrock tattoo? I’m watching the marathon too..
Future Mother-In-Law had absolutely no say in my wedding dress. I went with just my mom and had my dress designed to be exactly what I want. She did come to my first fitting though.. I’m sure she would approve of whatever I picked out but I wanted dress shopping to be an experience for just my mom and I.
Post # 5
I brought mine and it went fine. She was very polite for the most part, although my mom is brutally honest enough for both of them lol. I only took her and my mom so it was nice to have an outside opinion.
Post # 6
I voted other, as I am not entirely sure but I think I will ask my Future Mother-In-Law along on at least one or two appointments. It should go fine, she is not usually overbearing with her opinions.
Post # 7
I’ve been doing most of my dress shopping with my Fiance (he’s so darned good at it), but when we were visiting our parents we invited both of our moms to come out with us. It went very smoothly–they had similar tastes, weren’t overly pushy, and were very positive. My Mother-In-Law doesn’t have any daughters and mentioned that she was envious of all the stuff that the MOB gets to do, and I was more than happy to have her along!
Ultimately though, Fiance and I are choosing the dress, and neither mom is getting a deciding vote.
Post # 8
I invited my Mother-In-Law because she doesn’t have any daughters so I thought she might enjoy it, but she had no interest in going. She’s not girly at all, so I think the idea of spending a day looking at dresses was really boring to her. But if she had come I wouldn’t have minded! She wouldn’t have voiced strong opinions though, she would have just been along for the ride!
Post # 9
I get along well with my Future Mother-In-Law, but I’m not planning on including her when I go dress shopping. That’s an experience I’d really like to share with just my mother, and maybe my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 10
@jrzvol: YES! lol to tell that girl the shamrocks looked like a PICKLE!?? I was like, the freaking NERVE! I’m surprised the bride’s mom didn’t say more than she did to that comment, I flat out would have said “I understand you don’t like my tattoo but if you’re going to be rude and hurtful you can go home”
Post # 11
My Future Mother-In-Law did NOT come with dress shopping. In fact I wish I had not told her ANYTHING about the dress 😛 I’m one bee who had dress regret and from here on in I have not told her a single thing about my dress shopping and she will see how it is the day of the wedding only. She never has anything nice to say and I’d rather not have any negativity surrounding my dress lol
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
My Future Mother-In-Law liked every single one I put on, I think, lol. I didn’t mind her coming, she’s a sweet lady.
Although at one point her and my mom asked me to put on this one that they just HAD to see me in, that was clearly intended for a very very thin boobless model figure… I’m relatively thin, but definitely have boobs, so they just hung there unsuported and jiggly under the backless nightgown-like satin sheath…
Post # 13
@mrsalexander: Smart woman! I always wonder if these MILs act like this normally or if it’s a put on for the tv show. I can’t fathom a bride taking her Mother-In-Law if she NORMALLY acts that way! The brides never looked shocked at the behavior though…
Post # 14
I would have loved for Future Mother-In-Law to come dress shopping, she only had boys so I know she would have enjoye it. But she lives in Minnesota and I’m in Ontario. I sent her pictures of the one I picked.
Post # 15
She did go with me but a different time from my Mom. My Mom wanted it to be a special day with just her and I so I respected her wishes. It went fine but I didn’t end up buying the dress from the store that I went with Future Mother-In-Law.
Post # 16
My Future Mother-In-Law didn’t come with us when I first found my dress, it was just my mom and my 3 bridesmaids. This was about three months before we were actually engaged, so it would have been a little awkward to ask his mom to come along. Once we were engaged, one of the first things I did was to book another appointment at the salon to try on my dress one more time and place the order, which is when I invited my Future Mother-In-Law to come along. She doesn’t have any daughters and I think enjoyed being included in the process. I was more comfortable having her along after the decision had essentially already been made and it was just a matter of finalizing it.