(Closed) Does your guy hold your purse?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does your guy hold your purse?

    Yes, because I ask him to.

    Yes, because he offers.

    Yes, because I have a health condition or similar reason for not carrying my own purse.

    Yes, but only temporarily / for a moment.

    No, I'd never ask him to do that.

    No, and he would never offer / he wouldn't be okay with it.

    No. I ask him to but he refuses.

    No, but he offers.


  • Post # 121
    3107 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

    If I need my hands free for something or whatever reason, of course he will, just like he would hold anything else I needed him to. His masculinity isn’t that fragile, it’s just a purse.

    I also fail to see how it’s anyone’s business what other men are doing in their relationships or why anyone would “feel sorry” for them for holding an object. 

    Post # 122
    230 posts
    Helper bee

    It’s really only a possible issue if the man is going to be alone holding the purse.

    As if a guy holds a purse standing next to a girl with her hands full is going to devastate him or destroy his rep.

    Post # 123
    77 posts
    Worker bee

    My SO holds my purse whenever I ask him too. He probably wears my purse more than I do when we’re together; but let me tell you; he OWNS it. 

    “This shade is so flattering on me 

    Post # 124
    2344 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

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    MapleMoose:  My husband happily holds my handbag (purse) when I’m pushing my daughter in her wheelchair, he only pushes it uphill because the handles are too low for him to push it comfortably, he’s 13 inches taller than me. 

    He’ll also hold it if helpful while I browse but that’s rare. I can’t see the problem, I’d have no problem carrying his briefcase or coat in the reverse situation. 

    It is weird if the woman is empty handed and just walking down the street. Is that something you see? 

    I’m really short and feeble so when it comes to suitcases and heavy bags, he carries both when i can’t wheel mine, like on stairs. It’s not because I’m “a lady’ though, it’s because I really struggle with the weight and often my height, – they bang against my ankles or I have to bend and angle my arm to keep it off the floor. 

    Post # 126
    3607 posts
    Sugar bee

    Yes, if I ask him to, which I will if it’s so heavy it’s making my shoulders hurt. He’s always asking me to put stuff in there so he doesn’t have to hold on to it, which makes it heavy, so I think it’s a fair trade. I’ll also ask him to take it sometimes for a minute if I need to put on/take off a jacket or something like that. I don’t think it’s emasculating….he’s just helping me out. I also wouldn’t ask him to hold like a hot pink mini purse as opposed to a black work tote.

    Post # 127
    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I don’t MAKE him, but if it was getting too heavy or I had other things to carry he would do it… He might make a silly joke about it but he’d do it. I’m sure by looking at him everyone knows it isn’t HIS purse and he’s only holding it for me… I don’t see the big deal. 

    Post # 128
    2689 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Is this for real!? Like, really?

    Of course he’ll hold my purse if I need to free my hands or for whatever other reason? I can fathom why people are  so gender constructionist in their thinking that this is an issue? I wonder if these same women who think it’s emasculating for a man to hold a purse ever have their men pick up sanitary products? I guess it would be better to bleed all the way to the store so he doesn’t have to feel like less of a man? smh… weird!

    Post # 129
    68 posts
    Worker bee

    I have the most amazing boyfriend in the world, and he proudly holds my purse for me when we’re out and he can see that I’m getting tired. He’s very secure in his manhood, and it doesn’t phase him in the least.

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