(Closed) Does your husband /fiancé help you cleaning the house ??

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 16
703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

He helps clean when I give him a specific list of what to clean. If I don’t, he won’t know what to do. I’m usually the one who cleans and I prefer just doing it by myself. I have a specific routine and a specific way I like things cleaned. 🙂

Post # 17
1254 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

He tries, but isn’t good at looking around and figuring out what needs to be done. So usually while he cooks, I clean.

Post # 18
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My Fiance is a neat freak so he actually does more of the cleaning than me! We divide up tasks, but I definitely do less. I try to make up for it by doing a lot of the errands we need to run, paying bills, etc.

Post # 19
333 posts
Helper bee


I do the big cleanings, each week but he helps out. 

He cleans our dogs and clean the floor and wash the dishes everyday though. He also dose the laundary sometimes. 

Post # 20
41 posts

Definitely! He mostly does things related to the kitchen – most of the food shopping, most of the cooking, takes out the bins / recycling / dishes and cleaning (inclduing deep cleaning the oven, fridge etc). He also irons. I wash the laundry, clean the bathroom, vaccum and wash floors and general tidying. It works for us. 

Post # 21
7367 posts
Busy Beekeeper

He’s more of a Domestic than I am, so I usually help him. 

Post # 22
5152 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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italybabe:  My husband does all the cleaning and damn he does a good job. 

Post # 23
4240 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We share the cleaning duties.  Usually I “designate” which chores he does but he is really great at pitching in.  We also do our own laundry because he has Navy uniforms and I have delicates that I don’t trust him to wash properly haha.

Post # 24
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I let him know early on that it was an expectation of mine that we share housework. Why should he get to relax while I’m cleaning? This was a struggle because his parents (and probably their parents before that) set a poor example of this while he was growing up – his dad often watches tv while his mom cooks, cleans, and generally takes care of everything (and they both work full time!). He didn’t consciously have that expectation for our marriage, but was very subconsciously influenced by what was modeled for him at home growing up. 

Post # 25
9527 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

we each have our “chores” they we are responsible for.

though sometimes, i have to remind him to do his.


thankfully, we are hiring a cleaning person (starting this week) to get our house ready for the baby.  we will keep the cleaning person as long as we can afford it.

Post # 26
5082 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

My husband takes care of the yard, including picking up all the dog poop. 

Inside the house, he will help with something if I ask him to, but I usually save most of the cleaning for Saturdays when he’s working and I’m home. 

Post # 27
2034 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Absolutely. Actually, I’d say he does more of the cleaning (toilets, floors, taking garbage/recyling out, dishes). I definitely spend more time tidying so the house looks clean on a regular basis, but he cleans the bathrooms and all the floors when we do our big cleans, which is arguably more work. He also washes the dishes after meals, and will usually get to the dishwasher before I do. We cook together but I mostly prepare. I’m more of a baker than a cook 😉 He is very good. I think our situation is pretty darn close to 50/50 as far as household chores go. 

Post # 28
515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Cambridge Mill

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italybabe:  He most certainly does! My Fiance is a bit more OCD on things being tidy than myself. BUT when I start to clean I get a bit OCD about every nook and cranny which he doesn’t so much. Good blance I suppose. He keeps things tidy on the regular and I get in there and clean!

For the most part I look after cleaning the bathroom and washing the floors. He does all the vacuuming and sweaping, takes the garbage out etc. We do our own laundry.

Post # 29
215 posts
Helper bee

He does all of the cooking and is very particular about the kitchen so he keeps it spotless. I have house cleaners that come every 2 weeks for the rest of the house. I used to judge folks for that but now I am just glad I don’t have to do it myself! lol. He knew on date #1 that cooking and cleaning were not my thing!

Post # 30
10599 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Yup. Fiance takes care of the laundry (loves doing laundry, I have to stop him or else he would do a load everyday) and he also helps pick up and likes to vaccum. He takes care of all the outside matinence as well as taking out the trash before work and sometimes he pitches in on dishes if I ask. 

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