Post # 1
My husband has no wedding band because he doesn’t like to wear non-clothing accessories of any kind (that includes jewelry, sunglasses, watches, hats, etc…) At our ceremony I was the only one who received a ring so I guess it wasn’t really a “ring exchange”. I feel dumb. Is anyone else’s man the same way?
Post # 3
My fiance already wears his around the house “to get used to it” because he doesn’t really wear jewelry of any kind and has sensitive skin. He wanted to make sure there weren’t problems with it before the wedding because he wants to wear it all the time.
Post # 4
When my fiance and I were just dating, we had cheap matching promise rings (just solid sterling silver bands that were no more than $30 each) and he wore his ALL the time. Never took it off. His ring bent after about 4 years of some wear and tear and he couldnt wear it anymore. I bought him a new ring (before he quit wearing his last one) which he has only wore about 3 times in the 5 years he has had it. He says its to fancy and its dangerour to wear rings at his job. He does caulking and stucco on houses. I understand it might be a little dangerous but he never used that excuse when he wore the ring for 4 straight years before. I am pretty sure he will only wear his ring at the ceremony and probably VERY seldom after that. It kind of bothers me to think that he wont wear it because it is an important symbol to me.
Post # 5
Mine has said that he’ll get one for the wedding ceremoney but won’t wear it afterwards. He just hates jewelry, which I’m a bit miffed about but it’s his hand, not mine.
Post # 6
My SO has suggested he won’t wear a ring because “he doesn’t wear jewelry” and his father never wears his, but I’ve mentioned that it will mean a lot to me and I think by the time we get engaged and get close to the wedding, he will come around. I think it’s a significant symbol and I would prefer if he wore one. I plan on putting time and effort into choosing the perfect band for him, so I want him to wear it.
I do understand why some men, especially those who work dirty jobs/with their hands, don’t want to wear one.
One compromise I’ve heard before is to wear it for the first year of marriage then decide.
Post # 7
Darling Husband is a mechanic so he doesn’t wear his at work, and if we are just lounging at home in the evening he won’t bother to put it on at all. He usually only wears it on the weekends or if we are going out on a weeknight.
Him not wearing a ring doesn’t make him any less married or committed to you though!
Post # 8
@Beasha: I understand the work aspect. Mine does electric, H/VAC, and plumbing so I agree a ring could get ruined or lost at work. It hurt me that he didn’t want to wear one at least for the ceremony.
Post # 9
I pretty much told Darling Husband he had to wear a ring, and he didn’t argue or seem to mind. Neither my dad nor DH’s dad ever wore a ring, but I really wanted us both to have a symbol of our love and commitment. It helped that he got to choose whatever ring he liked, so he went for the “manliest man ring” he could find and has been quite happy with it.
I did tell him that if he ever has to do heavy physical labor or mechanical work, he needs to take it off. I can definitely understand why DH’s dad doesn’t wear a ring because he does heavy labor, and a coworker of his had his ring finger caught and pulled off. I would never want to put DH’s finger at risk for a ring!
Post # 10
My Fiance wanted to start wearing his the day we got it! I told him no. He also refers to me as his wife all the time, and I’m like, Uh….NO. We live together and have the ‘might as well be married’ attitude, but for some reason, I really wanted to keep the distinction.
He is wearing me down, though….I even called myself his wife in an argument recently. Plus, since our wedding plans are on hold indefinitely, I’m considering just letting him wear it until we decide what we’re going to do.
Post # 11
@Aquaria: That would hurt me also. And I dont see why they cant wear it after work or at least on the weekends for some kind of compromise if they know we would appreciate it.
Post # 12
My Fiance is a no frills kind of guy and hates jewlery. He has no choice in the matter. If he isn’t wearing a ring neither am I.him thinking about me not wearing a ring pretty much cemented that he’d wear his.
he works with his hands and will still be wearing a ring every day. I bought 3 rings so he could try them out and pick the most comfortable. We went with tungsten as it is more durable, scratch resistant, and no maintenence.
I would definitely not be ok with him not wearing his wedding band.
Post # 13
@Aquaria: DH doesn’t wear it to work or at home, but if we go out to dinner/with friends/anything of the sort he’ll wear it (if he remembers). It kinda annoys me sometimes but I try not to swear the small stuff! He’s just not a jewelry guy.
Post # 14
He usually just wears his when he goes out of the house. He wore it around for like 2 weeks before our wedding to get used to it but now it’s getting scratched up since it’s white gold and it annoys him so he doesn’t want to wear it all the time anymore. Whatever, doesn’t matter to me!
Post # 15
Fiance won’t have a choice just kidding! he plans to wear one & will wear it all the time. his came yesterday and he asked if he could wear it now
Post # 16
I may come across as a bit bridezilla-ish or controlling, so be forewarned.
My FH (a tattoo artist) asked me, “Do I have to wear a ring??” I said, “No, you don’t have to wear a ring. If you don’t want to wear a ring, you can get one tattooed on your finger.” He mentioned that he already has a tattoo on his ring finger (his knuckles say true love across them). I told him then I guess he could remove what he already has and tattoo over it.
He’s decided that he’ll wear a ring.