Post # 1
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Bumble bee
I want to get an accurate understanding of couples who have discussed this issue. My FI and I have discussed it and he is going to wear his wedding band. He said that being married is an honor and wearing his band is honoring his wife and the vows he took under God.
Some of my FI’s friends do not wear a band but I dont know if it would bother me or not because he wants too.
EDIT: Some of you have asked why do I have a poll…I wanted to know if it would bother you if your husband or Fiance decided not to wear it.
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
I don’t quite understand your poll.
My Fiance is waiting impatiently for his man-gagement ring, so yup, he’ll be wearing it.
Some people have said that their Fiance has a ring phobia or can’t wear it due to work. Those scenarios don’t sound upsetting.
If he wore other rings but not a wedding band, I’d want to know why. Maybe there would still be a good explanation. In the end, it’s just a ring. It may or may not suggest a more serious issue. It certainly doesn’t necessarily.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
@joya_aspera: that is the point, it doesnt bother me but my Fiance is adamant that I wear my ring and he wears his. Some of the wives I asked were upset because their husbands feel the way you described it is ony a ring.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
I dont get your poll either, you say your Fiance is planning on wearing it…so what is the question? Are you curious about how women feel about men who choose not to?
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
Well, I would probably be upset because my Fiance likes wearing rings and doesn’t have any reason he can’t wear one, but it all depends on his reasons, I guess.
Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I didn’t understand your poll either but it would bother me if he didn’t wear his after we got married, just like it would bother him if I didn’t wear mine, or if I didn’t wear my engagement ring now. We are both going to wear our wedding bands 24/7.
Post # 8
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Newbee
We’re not even going to get him a ring at all. He doesn’t wear any sort of jewelry (no watches, rings, necklaces…nothing) and besides, he can’t wear it at work either. I really don’t care either way. I’ll happily be wearing mine because I enjoy the pretty jewelry as well as the symbolism behind it. I’m sure he wouldn’t mind if I chose not to get/wear one.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
Another who doesn’t understand the poll either.
My fella can’t wait to wear his band. I couldn’t care less if he did or didn’t wear one to be honest.
Post # 10
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Honey bee
The poll doesn’t make sense I think that’s why everyone is confused.
I know my husband doesn’t wear his ring at work. Other than that, it wouldn’t bother me if he did or didn’t wear his ring. We’re still married either way. I don’t need him to prove anything to anyone except me.
I like to take my engagement ring off from time to time and wear only my wedding band, but he hates when I do that. Go figure.
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
My Fiance wears his engagement ring every day so I cant see why he wouldnt wear his wedding band. I agree though, Im not sure if I would be upset if he didnt want to wear it. I think I would be because he does wear an engagement ring, also because his job (accountant) doesnt affect his ring wearing ability. Both my sisters husbands dont wear their rings one is an electrician and the other is a painter (ring has grooves so he doesnt want paint on it and it the grooves) but he wears it on a chain aroud his neck.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
My Fiance doesn’t wear it all the time due to his work forbidding it.. but he wears his ring when we go out.
I’m only annoyed we spent the $ on his e-ring and he gets so little use out of it that it probably would have been better to not get it in the first place.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
My fiance wears his wedding band every day and he says hes not taking it off (hes overseas and theres nothing i could do about it anyway) *sigh*
Post # 14
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Honey bee
Fiance will be wearing a ring. I asked him once after we were engaged if he was going to wear a ring. he looked at me like I was absolutely crazy and said “of course!!!”
Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
Fiance is SO excited to wear his ring!
Post # 16
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Busy bee
I would hope my Fiance would wear his ring…what would be the point of going shopping and spending the money buying one and going through a wedding? He’s overly excited about it. Said he’ll wear it with pride. I don’t get how men, that I know, don’t wear their wedding rings. To me, that is a sign of disrespect to their marriage, again, the men that I know and knowing their relationship/marriage. I told Fiance that I don’t want him to be like that and I want him to wear his. He said he’d never take it off.
