Post # 1
Let me tell you about my baby. Ohhh, let me tell you. Every weekday, at 5:20am, I get up and prepare her a bottle. I take her downstairs and change her diaper, sing to her, play with her, give her the bottle, play some more, and then drop her off at daycare. 3 days a week, I also pick her up at the end of the day and give her a thousand kisses before taking her home. I put her to bed every night after bathtime with Daddy.
I stayed home for three months after she was born, caring for her day and night. When she is sick, I cuddle her and de-snot her nose for her. When she has gas and can’t sleep, she comes into bed and nestles against my side until she relaxes enough to drift off. When DH has chores to do in the garage (which is the case at least one day of every weekend), Dear Daughter and I play together inside. I sing children’s songs to her with my guitar. I have long ‘conversations’ with her over every diaper change. I give her the majority of her bottles. I never get frustrated with her, no matter how insane she is being.
DH, on the other hand, is not as patient as I am. He gets annoyed when she flails around and won’t take her bottle properly, or if she cries a lot at night and won’t let us sleep. He is a terrible singer, an awful night-cuddler, and he says the snotsucker makes him gag so he can’t do it.
And you know what? When I try to get Dear Daughter to laugh she’s all
And when DH tries to get her to laugh she’s all
What a punk.
It’s okay, DH — you just wait. You. Just. Wait.
Someday, she’ll be 37 years old and it will be all about me again. And then I will have the last laugh.
Haha anyone else’s kid seem to prefer the WRONG parent?
Post # 3
My 10 year old has more in common with my husband- they go to the movies together and build Lego sets together. That gives them a good bond that she and I don’t have- which is interesting because he is not her bio-dad. The 2 year old and I spend all day together so we have a special bond, but she is a BIG fan of her father as well- when he gets home she is all about him.
Post # 4
@iarebridezilla: LOL! I am already preparing myself that my daughter will be a total Daddy’s girl and have him wrapped around her little finger. He’s such a fun loving kid at heart, I just know it’s gonna be them two. I’m okay with this because, like you said, I’ll have the last laugh when she’s calling me when she’s in her 30’s to talk about her hubby or her job or other day to day things.
Post # 5
@iarebridezilla: Ha. You’re not even going to have to wait that long. My nephew is 15 months and his preference swings back and forth every couple months. For a while he HATED men. I mean, his dad was ok but he hated all other men and would scream if they came around him. I attributed this to the fact that other than his dad the only people that cared for him were his mom, me and his grandma. On Thanksgiving he would run from all the men… on Christmas he was everyone’s best friend. And… to my great heartache… when I’m watching him I’m the one who wakes up with him in the morning, changes his diaper, cuddles him until he’s fully awake and then takes him downstairs to feed and play with him… and the moment my Fiance comes downstairs the baby wants NOTHING to do with me. 🙁 If Tio is around I can kick rocks. He will scream bloody murder unless my Fiance is playing with him, carrying him or chasing him up and down the stairs. Stupid baby. 😛
Post # 6
Haha! my son (3 1/2) tells me I’m his “best friend” and we have cuddle time, fun time, silly games, and etc.
Dad is a grump that plays pranks on him for fun. But, everytime we go anywhere our son tell me to “wait in the truck” he’s going with dad. Wtf.
Or if I tell him a fact like: “the ocean has fish in it!” he’ll go and ask dad if that’s true, like I just lie to him all the time or something. He never does that with dad.
I think it’s a toss up, however having two little boys I feel like the “my mom is my best friend” time is slowly running out. Pretty soon they’ll be 10 and won’t even want to be seen with me, then teenagers, then they’ll have wives who come on the weddingbee to complain about me lol.
Post # 7
Dude. This baby likes DH more already.
If DH is near me and she can hear him, she stretches and kicks towards his voice. When he puts his hand on my belly, she immediately kicks and squirms.
When anyone else touches my belly, she plays possum.
She’s already a Daddy’s Girl. Every terrible thing I ever did/said to my mother is just waiting to bite me!
Post # 8
your whole post made me LOL. Momsters in law :-p
Post # 9
So far, she likes me better, but I’ve got the boobs. She’s all about the boobs right now. It’s an unfair advantage.
Post # 10
Do young girls always like their Dad’s more?? I’ll be bummed if my daughter always wants him over me!
Post # 11
no, they don’t. Some of that swings back and forth during different stages of growing up. Some of it depends on the child’s personality and some of it depends on parenting styles. I was a daddy’s girl, still am, but my mom is my best friend and outside of a few years during high school, she always was.
Post # 12
Ok good. 🙂 Truth is, I was always a little more clingy with my Dad when I was little, but similarly to you- the older I got, the more my Mom was really my best friend and confidante.
Post # 13
My 9 month old is all about me these days, but I’m sure it’s a phase! Lol. My fiance/his dad can definitely get him laughing a lot more than me a lot of the time though. I’m just comforting to him, but Daddy is fun! lol
Post # 14
Haha OP where on earth did you get your daughter’s amazing hat?
I’m 100% prepared for any daughters (and probably sons) to like my husband more than me. He’s got this fun, easy, natural, amazing way with kids of all ages (he’s an elementary school teacher, so that probably contributes). I know I’ll do a great job of the caretaking part and love them to pieces, and hopefully have a great relationship with them, but I expect Daddy will always be the fun one.
But on a serious note, I’m one of 3 girls, and we were all such Daddy’s girls. And man was my mom so jealous and terrible about it. So I’m prepared and determined to love the bond my kids have with my husband (and I don’t think that will be hard) versus taking it out on them, or him.
Post # 15
lol at stupid baby. I’ve also noticed the preference moves back and forth pretty often with my nieces and nephews.
Post # 16
@iarebridezilla: My daughter has preferences for each of us at different times. If she’s ready to party, she’s all about Daddy! She thinks he’s HILARIOUS. At bed and nap time, or if she’s not feeling well, though, she wants to snuggle with me. DH can’t even do bedtime/ her middle of the night feeding if she needs one because she gets so worked up that it’s not me and just completely freaks out.