Post # 31
No, my mom does not do that. Maybe the occasional “brag” to people she hasn’t seen in a while but def. nothing personal like TTC.
However, my Mother-In-Law does that and it is SO annoying! She told people that my husband was paying for parts of my tuition (uhm why would they care and we are MARRIED for heavens sake!), she tells people about my job (as much as she knows) etc.! It is really frustrating because I sometimes don’t even know what she knows, because my husband obviously talks more to her than I do. She doesn’t just do that with me but with everyone. A family member just gave birth and she updates us by sending us pictures of the baby-which she took from Facebook!!! Like wtf? We are friends with her too and can clearly see that she just saved the pic from the mom’s profile! Ugh!
Some people are just like that, and usually I would say: keep your personal stuff to yourself. But since it is your mother, and you should feel able to share anything with her, I would tell her how invasive this behavior is and that it will cause tensions if she doesn’t stop.
Post # 32
KatesTheWord: Yes. My mom does this and that’s why I stopped telling her things. Your mom sounds a lot like mine!!!
Post # 33
KatesTheWord: My mom does this too! When it comes to tough personal stuff (like a cancer scare I went through), she understands that things are personal and need to be kept quiet. But when it’s something positive and happy, she frequently tells people before I get the chance to! Case in point- the night my husband and I got engaged, she must have gotten off of the phone with me and called my aunt (her sister) right away. I called my aunt about a half hour later and she already knew! I was really disappointed that I didn’t get to share the news with her myself. Now I’m pregnant and my hubby and I are excited to tell our parents- but I’m worried that she’ll tell the whole family before I’m ready and before I get to tell them myself!
Post # 34
do we have the same mom? Lol
I told my mom when something traumatic happened to me. Begged her to not say anything and first thing she does is call her friend to tell her.
I get diagnosed with a mental health disorder and she introduces me as her “daughter with bipolar”. A few years later I am cleared of bipolar as I have a physical condition that caused those issues. I ask her to not tell anyone about the medical issue and she tells everyone but continues to also tell everyone I am bipolar.
so I had enough one day and told her I WA sick of it and she needed to respect my privacy and not blab to all of her friends. She denied being like that and I asked her not to tell her friends about our argument. This was all through email. So what happens next?
I get an email from her, mistakenly sent to me but meant for her friend. It was all about the argument and she even copied and pasted some of what I had written.
so I confront her and she still denies it. But she eventually admitted and I realized…
people like that will never be able to keep a secret. Sthey have 0 self control. Its not that they want to ruin everything, they just can’t help themselves.
dont share personal things with her, its not likely that she stops
Post # 35
My mother is kind of the same. We call her “the djungle telegraph” in our family. If I tell her something on the phone and after we hang up, I want to call for example my sister to also tell her “the thing”, the line is busy. Yeah, because my mum was faster… Very annoying!
When announcing something it’s always better to inform my mother last, or she will tell everyone before you get the chance. It’s not like she is gossiping or telling bad things to people. She just LOVES to deliver good news! But sometimes you actually wants to deliver your good news by your self! I’ve learn through the years and I’m very careful with what I tell her.
Post # 36
MrsScarlet: Haha, I think we have the same mom! She just loves to deliver good news! And damn, is she fast! 😀
Post # 37
SwedishBee: You’re right- it sounds like our moms were totally cut from the same cloth! I could understand if my mom saw someone in person and couldn’t help but share good news, but when she called my aunt on my engagement night, it blew my mind! My husband and I had hung up from my parents, called his parents, called siblings and grandparents, and my aunt was next in line- but I was too late! I try to understand that she’s just excited and can’t help herself!