- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2015
I am also a member of babycenter and personal support is encouraged there. I tell him when I’ve posted about our issues to get a 3rd party’s opinion and he doesn’t care because I don’t use names and my username and such is anonymous (as with most people’s). I don’t see anything “childish” about doing this, especially when the majority of people around you are opinionated and not that open minded, and are very involved in your life (we have family for neighbors. Once I graduate college, we’re out of here but for now, it’s a cheap way to live on the property).
EDIT: I think it also helps that I share with him what people respond (the posts that are respectful whether they agree or disagree with him or me) so he also gets an outsider’s opinion from me doing it and usually starts trying to see my point or tells me “well they agree with me so maybe you should think about your position”.
That said, I don’t come to the internet with every problem. Usually “woman stuff” that he doesn’t want to talk about or is tired of hearing me go on about, or issues that arise that we can’t seem to see each other’s side on. The unfortunate fact is that we’re more willing to take advice from people that we don’t know who have a different way of saying and explaining their reasoning than our partner’s do. It does help to have somewhere else to go for information/opinions. (2 heads are better than 1, 5 heads are better than 2, etc).
I wish everyone the best!