(Closed) Does your SO clear his internet history?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Do you know if he has it set to automatically clear everytime the browser closes?  To me that would seem less suspicious then going in and clearing it right before you got there. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know my Fiance watches porn, and it doesn’t bother me.  He’s also not tech savvy enough to know how to clear the history, or the url history.  Thats how i know what he’s been watching.  not because is snoop, but when i go back to see pages that i’ve looked at earlier, i see what he was doing.  He doesnt like to talk about the porn either.  I think he feels guility about watching it.  But i’ve told him over and over that it doesn’t bother me, but he still likes to be secretive.  Maybe that’s part of the excitement? Like if I know about it and am ok with it, there is a little less thrill? Anyway, as long as it isn’t taking over his life and he’s watching it for 8 hours a day, i don’t see the problem.  But if you’re not ok with it (especially the secrecy part)  you definitely need to have a talk about it and explain whey you are uncomfortale. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

The pron thing worries me more than clearing the history.  Why is his porn something that he feels like he has to hide from you?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

My internet history is set to clear every time I close the browswer. I specifically do this so Fiance doesn’t know my porn preferences. He knows the types of things I like but the fantasies I have are very private and I would be very embarassed if he saw or knew what all of them were.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I second @Natalieh86:. Many people set up their browser to clear out when they close it, myself included.

I’m sorry the porn thing is bugging you. What is it about him watching the porn that bothers you so much? You know he does it, are you also hoping to see exactly what he watches? If so, why?

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Being able to communicate openly about sex is really, really important in a marriage. Have you visibly freaked out about the porn with him? Told him it makes you uncomfortable? He may think he is trying to save you the heartache of seeing things related to it, and it is coming off as something suspicious instead. Try talking to him about it in a loving, accepting way. He may open up to you more about it if he knows he can talk to you and be accepted.

And no, my husband does not clear his browser history. He has some of his favorite porn files uploaded to our media server, even. I’d always rather know than be in denial.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

No he doesnt , ever.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think that this is something you need to let go. Everyone has there deep, dark secrets, fantasies they enjoy etc which don’t effect their life but that they allow themselves to enjoy, by themselves. You just said that there are things you don’t necessarily want to share with him, give him the same benefit. Even if he does like to watch porn that you don’t like yourself, that’s ok!

Remember that porn and related activities are only about pleasing one person, himself, and really it’s a completely different activity to sex. Sex is about compromise and making sure both people are enjoying themselves and sharing a connection. What porn he watches may be very different from how you have sex, and that’s ok! Because it’s a different activity all together. 

So, try and let it go, there are much bigger things to worry about and until it actually starts to affect your relationship, it’s not a big deal. Digging now will just cause trouble. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Darling Husband doesn’t. But if the history is always in the side bar (some computers are like that!) I hate seeing it-  it looks clunky and cluttered to me. My OCD prompts me to clear it, and I can breathe again. I’m the same way at work with my email. Each email has a subject and it goes in the appropriate folder; otherwise it looks too chaotic and cluttered for me…

Just thought I’d offer a different perspective 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Maybe he also hangs out in chat rooms with other guys and acts like an idiot. I am being serious, in the age of the internet and message boards, I know lots of people who BS like idiots on-line the way they would at a bar hanging out with “the guys.” They joke about farts and fat chicks and shit blowing up good in movies.

It’s possible that is what your guy is doing, just being a guy…and maybe he doesn’t want you to see the 15 page long thread he and his buddies have discussing which is better Jessica Alba’s ass or Christina Hendrick’s rack, not because he is trying to lie to you, but because he knows it makes him look like some 14 year old butthead.

I am sure there is porn there too, but there is possibly just a lot of dumb shit he doesn’t want you to know about because it makes him look stupid. Think of it this way: if you were on his computer researching how to deal with lip/chin waxing, is that something you would REALLY want him to stumble on? No, not because it’s some big secret, but because you want to keep some air of mystery and be seen as a natural beauty…not suddenly be seen as the bearded lady. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

My browser is set to always be in private browsing mode. And it clears everything when I exit. I don’t like leaving any kind of trace of where I’ve been. I don’t want to keep random cookies, I don’t want to keep pages cached. I prefer to keep as much crap off my computer as I can. It’s just easier to keep it clean than have to go in and clean it. It sounds like you’re paranoid to me. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

No, I don’t think my Fiance would know how. I also know he doesn’t watch porn… like at all. He used to but now he’s just not that into it, mainly because we have more sex now. Every male is different.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I think if he’s clearing it purposely that’s a bit weird- as for the porn thing, if it bothers you maybe you shouldn’t be with him. What you’re comfortable with is totally up to you.  I know lots of women are totally cool with porn, I personally don’t care for it. If my husband was an avid watcher it’d be a deal breaker.

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