Post # 17
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this is our first valentines as a married couple so I told him if he wants to get me anything he can get me some cute curtains or a tv stand :p . Flowers die- curtains are forever. Yes I like gifts but I suddenly prefer items that can make our nest look nice or are useful 🙂 Though before he used to go with traditional chocolate & teddy bear. I love chocolate but my dog got a hold of the teddy heh.
Post # 18
80% of grocery store and 1-800-Flowers-type flowers are grown by women in Colombia and Ecuador. They make around $250 a month, are abused by employers, and exposed to tons of dangerous pesticides that are illegal in the US. I did a sort of thesis paper on this. Colombian female flower workers have higher spontaneous abortion rates than non-flower workers and tons of musculoskeletal issues because the work is so strenuous. The answer isn’t to boycott – it has a lot more to do with how the US trades with South American countries and labor rights/collective bargaining rights in the country. BUT, regardless, I don’t buy them. I don’t want a gift on Valentine’s day that some other woman slaved over.
Post # 19
I hate red roses (all red rose bouquets anyway) so I really hope he doesn’t buy me those. He knows this though. He usually gets me potted plants though, which I prefer sinc they don’t die ASAP.
Post # 20
Not usually – I’m a chocolates type of girl. We tend to get each other a small gift and go out for a nice dinner.
Post # 21
I could care less, but then I’m allergic to the perfume that is typically sprayed on flowers (especially roses in the US) to make them presumably more rose like? I dunno! lol. My ex used to regularly randomly buy me flowers but he got them from a grocery store that didn’t spray them with perfume and got the wildflower bunches. I can honestly say I don’t really care about flowers but the wildflower bunches are awesome. I still don’t care that Darling Husband has never bought me flowers, but he did once pick a daisy at his folks place and give it to me.
And we have a cat that eats any plant except cactus, I used to have shamrock and icicle plants :(. I still miss the shamrock and the icicle was cool too.
Year before last we bought each other video games :). But that’s one of our main hobbies and we often play games together too. Totally unplanned. It was pretty funny at work with the girls and “What did your SO do for Valentines Day?”… “Oh, he got me this video game I wanted but never found it cheap enough I wanted to pay for it!”… *blink, blink* “That’s good I guess.”.
Last year he got me cheese curds (I’m originally from WI), we drove 70 miles to a cheese place and he bought me cheese curds and rye crackers! Same thing at work (same girls), they asked, “He got me cheese curds!”… *blink blink* “You have a strange relationship.”. I gave them all a piece. It was pretty awesome. “It squeaks when I chew it” (it’s supposed to), “It’s like cheese only weird.”, etc.
All in all, I feel it doesn’t matter what you do or gift, it’s about recognizing the day and your love in a way that is relevant to the couple, if that’s flowers great, if it’s cheeze curds and video games so be it. 🙂 Or not recognizing the day at all if that’s both what you feel!
Post # 22
@gelaine22: I like roses… in gardens… bouquet roses look stupid and don’t smell as nice and they’re cut. It’s a shame. I’m just glad my SO understands that. I remember an ex arranged to have me wake up with a bouquet of roses on my pillow AFTER I said “Don’t get me anything, I don’t want it, I don’t like Valentine’s day, I hate getting flowers.” And then my mum got mad at me when I yelled at him because I was being ungrateful and non-understanding. Ridiculous. :/
The only time I got flowers it was pink tulips that SO’s mother dearest insisted on, which is hilarious because I HATE tulips, and the colour pink. It was literally “Sorry, she made me do it…” “What the fuck am I supposed to do with these? I can’t beat anyone up with this!” It never happened again. =P
Post # 23
I don’t buy into the idea of gifts for Valentine’s day unless it’s something that we can both use romantically or intimately. This includes flowers which are ridiculously priced over Valentine’s day, imo.
Post # 24
@renwoman: He does what he wants. Sometimes flowers, sometimes not. But I love him no matter what.
Post # 25
@renwoman: He sometimes gives me flowers. Once he got me sunflowers (my favorite flower). I am not a fan of big flower arrangements, I much rather have a single rose than a bunch of them.
It is not expected but not banned either. He sometimes do he sometimes doesn’t. And I am fine with it.
Post # 26
Nah. We have plenty of flowers in the gardens. He has made donations on my behalf to animal rescue organizations. Which is so much better! Love him!
Post # 27
I love V Day,,and I love receiving flowers..it makes me feels special,,and girlie..Love Love them,,
Post # 28
Not really into the flowers and candy of Valentine’s day, just never has been my thing. I rather my SO think outside the box, as I would do for him!
Post # 29
I’d love some!
I’ve only received flowers twice in my life, so I’d be extatic.
Although, roses aren’t my number one. If they were gotten for me, I’d prefer some of those pretty multicolored pinkish ones.
Post # 30
@MrsN14: Same here.
I’m not into him showing love because of a day, it’s a year round deal for both of us
Post # 31
My Fiance knows I hate red roses… I trained as a florist, and it really grated on me, as a student, watching the price of red roses soar. My favourite rose colour is yellow or champagne, but my favourite flowers are lillies… calla, oriental, asiatic. He gets me lovely flowers three or four times a year, and supermarket ones when he feels romantic.