(Closed) Does Your SO Have Any Say In What Gender Gynecologist You See?

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
  • poll: What Gender Does Your SO Prefer You To See?
    Female : (13 votes)
    4 %
    Male : (0 votes)
    SO does not care/never has said : (123 votes)
    41 %
    SO doesn't care but I prefer female : (101 votes)
    33 %
    SO doesn't care but I prefer male : (21 votes)
    7 %
    Neither of us care I just want the first appointment window available : (45 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 62
    Member
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Mrs_Amanda:  I’d never been to a gyno until being pregnant my first time. I originally wanted a female doctor but ended up scheduling with a male one because the other place was booked. SO wasn’t too fond of the idea of another male being down there, but he didn’t protest. Afterall, it is just a doctor.

    Post # 63
    Member
    487 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    He doesn’t care, or hasn’t mentioned, but it doesn’t really matter anyway.  NO ONE is taking new patients right now, so I’m stuck with a doc who books pap smears ten months in advance (my mom just booked a pap with the same doc, and it’s ten months away).

    Post # 64
    Member
    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I don’t think my husband cares, though I’ve never asked him and it’s never come up. I prefer a female. 

    On a semi related note, I think the term Pap smear is gross. Smear. I don’t like that word. Lol. 

    Post # 65
    Member
    13095 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Darling Husband couldn’t care less about what OBGYN I go to.

    I’ve had both male and female doctors and overall, I prefer the males actually.  They seem to be more gentle and more thorough.

    Post # 66
    Member
    2375 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’ve been to both male and female OB/GYNs.  I have a slight preference towards female, only because overall I’ve had better experiences with females.  Not because of anything sexual.  The only thing my fiance cares about is if I’m happy with my doctor.  For his doctor though, he has a very strong preference for male doctors, just because it’s easier for him to talk to another male.

    Post # 67
    Member
    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Mrs_Amanda:  I’ve always gone to a male Gyno. I don’t care and neither does my fiancé. If he asked me to change, I wouldn’t. It’s my doctor, so it’s my choice. 

    Post # 68
    Member
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee

    Since being with my SO I’ve only gone to the gyno a couple of times and it was a man. The first time I saw him we’d only been dating a while. I don’t see how it really matters. I’m fine with either- I do kind of prefer men because they don’t pry me for questions about my relationship like the women I’ve seen before.

    Post # 69
    Member
    2530 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It’s a discussion I’ve never had with him, mainly because here you see who you get! However, for appointments of an intimate nature then I will ask to see a woman. 

    Post # 70
    Member
    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’ve had two really, really awesome male gynos, two really, really horrible male gynos, and am now with an awesome woman nurse practitioner (within a gyno office) who does my annual paps/check ups. 

    I have to have a good relationship with my gyno whether male or female. And my husband has absolutely no say in this… not that he cares either way.

    Post # 71
    Member
    1143 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I guess I’ve always gone to females for physicals and paps, but just because that’s who I felt more comfortable starting with at the time (in high school), and who I’ve stuck with. I’m not sure if my husband cares one way or the other, becuase as others said, it’s just a pap, and I do not get turned on or anything during them. They’re professionals (hopefully), and will act as such during the appointment.

    Post # 72
    Member
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    That’s never even come up in discussion with my FI!  I used to be kind of weirded out by having a male gyno, but I figured “Hey, this dude looks at vaginas all day, who the hell cares?” It’s just another “day at the office” for them! My current doc happens to be female, but these days I’m happy to just be able to get an appointment with anyone who has good credentials.

     

    Post # 73
    Member
    35 posts
    Newbee

    I have always been more comfortable seeing a woman gynecologist rather than a man. It’s just personal preference, really. My SO doesn’t say “you can’t see a male gyno”, he just wants me to see whomever I feel comfortable with. He does seem kind of glad that I prefer female gynos over male gynos haha!

    Post # 74
    Member
    982 posts
    Busy bee

    @Mrs_Amanda:  I see a male gynaecologist – he is by referral from my GP only. I’ve been seeing him for a good 10 years, since my first abnormal Pap smear which required treatment. I have also since worked at the clinic where he works. SO once asked if I felt awkward about that, but I said no (I’m sure they all look the same!), but SO certainly doesn’t have an issue with it. There were no female gynaes around when I first started having girl issues, and seeing a male didn’t bother me because my GP is male. I’ll still stick with the same gynae forever because he knows my history and I feel comfortable with him! 

    I think it’s so odd that a guy would have an issue with their SO or wife seeing a male gynae! There is nothing sexual about Pap smears or colposcopies! 

    Post # 75
    Member
    7369 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @lina010:  +1 

    His only concern is the level of care I get. 

    Post # 76
    Member
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper

    He has not expressed an opinion but I am confident that the chance of assault or lewd enjoyment on the part of the gyno is lower with a female. I’d be willing to bet some minority of male gynos chose that specialty because of a sexual reason. 

    I have seen both male and female, and never had a problem, but when I have the choice, I prefer female. I prefer female doctors in general as well. It makes more sense to me that a female will understand the female body better (they are NOT just the same as men’s bodies, in far more ways than genitals), and anyhow, I think women make better doctors, in general. More careful, perceptive, and quality-focused, IMO.

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