(Closed) Does your SO have to go to bed when you do?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We’ll both fall asleep on the couch sometimes but if we’re both out in the living room it doesn’t matter…but if one of us goes to bed, usually the other one tags along. I don’t know why..it’s just something we’ve done ever since we’ve lived together. He almost always falls asleep on the couch & then I tell him we need to move to the bed…but most of the time neither of us “go to bed” until about 9 or 10. 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

No, as Lees says normally we go to bed at the same time but if one of us doesn’t feel like it we’ll stay up and join the other later.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We go to bed at the same time… it’s more of a ritual thing I guess, and that if one of us did, the other would wake them up getting in bed later.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I work 3rd shift and he has a typical 9-5 job so no, we don’t usually go to bed at the same time and never really have. I’m at work when he’s sleeping and he’s at work when I’m sleeping. On my nights off we’re in the bed together for a little while until he falls asleep and then I usually turn on the tv and stay up all night.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery

weird!! I was just thinking of this concept….Fiance and I usually go to bed at the same time and we each find it is weird to go to bed without the other.  When one of us wants to stay up late the other person will nag and say “come on pleeeease come to bed”  Usually neither of us will budge about going to bed, but we both ask the other anyway. 

I think it’s a comfort thing and we each have a tough time falling asleep without the other, but it’s only because we are so used to getting into bed at the same time.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

For us, it’s because we live in a 400 sq ft studio loft with no walls, haha. The bed is in the living room. Or, IS the living room, which flows into the kitchen. The bathroom is in the corner.

It’s either all the lights or none (okay, that’s an exaggeration), so when one of us wants to sleep, we both tend to turn in.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

We normally don’t go to bed at the same time.  I like my sleep and he’s more of a night owl so he’ll usually stay up an hour later.  Most of the time I fall asleep on the couch and he has to wake me up to go to bed, so those nights we do go to bed at the same time.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am always the one who gets tired for so I usually go to bed before him. I guess I never really thought about it, we just go to bed when we are tired.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Nope, he gets up way earlier than I do for work so he typically goes to bed earlier.  Plus I’m kind of a night owl.  On the weekends though we tend to be on the same schedule and go to bed at the same time.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This is funny. One of the things that made my Fiance most nervous about moving in with me is that he thought it meant he’d miss out on his late night TV watching/web browsing that he tended to do during his bachelorhood. I told him that was silly, and being a person who tends to turn in early, I told him he could stay up as late as he wanted, and he didn’t need to be bound by my bedtime! However, now that we live together, he always goes to bed when I do, insisting that it just feels right and he loves the cuddle time. (He’d kill me if I told our friends this, but I figure its safe to share with the bees!)

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

“has to” ?! Lol, no.

He only goes to bed with me because he’s like “i have nothing better to do”. When I used to wait tables though I’d crawl into bed about 2 hours after him. After all, I didnm’t have to get up at 5am so why would i go to bed at 10pm?!

My dad’s kinda like this though–when we’re over he’ll bug my mom to come to bed with him and she’ll go, “no i’m hanging out!” lol. So i guess you just fall into a habit sometimes

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Not at all. I need much more sleep than he does, so I usually go to bed before him. He’ll take me to the bed and tuck me in, but go back upstairs to play video games or watch TV. Then we wake up at the same time, it works really well.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Until about 6 months ago we did always go to bed at the same time, and it was annoying haha. I am a total night owl and I kind of hate going to bed before midnight. He is a morning guy and has a hard time staying up past 930 or 10. We used to basically see who would win the battle every night. I’d beg him to stay up with him, he’d beg me to go to bed. Some nights I won some nights he did… but it kind of sucked. 

Then I would get really annoyed because I’d be wide awake at 10pm and he is SNORING so loud on the couch (he’s a big snorer) and I’d wake him up and say “go to bed if you’re going to sleep” but he wouldnt go to bed without me, and he wouldn’t stay awake downstairs. ARGH. 

After several fights about this, he just goes to bed when he’s tired and I go to bed when I’m tired. The last few months that means that I go to bed about 2 hrs after him every night… which I rather like (having a bit of me-time at the end of the night)… but I also kind of miss the cuddling we used to do. I’m thinking that I need to make an effort to go to bed at the same time as him at least a few nights/week. But- I’m really happy that I no longer HAVE to go to bed when he does if I don’t want to. 

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