(Closed) Does your SO know your "number"?

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Neither of us know each others, and I am happy with that. 🙂 Like someone previously mentioned….as long as it doesn’t go up since me. we’re good. 😀 lol

 

Post # 48
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881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

liaeona:  

We know each other’s numbers but neither of us care about it. 

Post # 49
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523 posts
Busy bee

He knows mine and I have a rough estimate of his. 

Post # 50
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1450 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

I have told Fiance my number. It was relevant at the time because it is quite low and I needed him to understand where I was coming into the relationship from.

I do not know his. I do know that he had a VERY promiscuous phase in his 20s, so I’ve determined I am probably better off not knowing. (But I would still love him even if he had out-banged Wilt Chamberlain.)

Post # 51
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1387 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

He does – I was a virgin when we got together so I felt like I had to be honest. I know his number – it never bothered me. 

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Not his business; not my business. We are healthy and disease-free. 

Post # 53
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Blushing bee

We don’t. We’ve talked about past relationships when they are pertinent to a conversation (I have a son and he has a step son from a previous realtionship) but never in general terms like how many people we’ve slept with. 

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We were both each other’s firsts so it’s easy for us. He’d never even dated anyone before me, but I had several long-term boyfriends. I was a serial monogamist even in middle and high school LOL, so I got pretty serious and physical with at least one of them. I tried to discuss it once when we were just starting out dating, and it seemed to weird him out that I cared to talk about it (just because he didn’t care). Now that it’s been so many years, I can tell that he honestly just doesn’t give a crap about who came before him (rightly so since it was high school!!), and I know it would be the same if we had done the actual deed with others before each other.

Post # 55
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Our little church

Yes and No.

Post # 56
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

liaeona:  He knows mine. I don’t think he cares. And I know he told me his…twice, and I forgot twice, so I guess I don’t care that much either. Lol 

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

liaeona:  Nope, he doesn’t. Similar to you guys in a way. My boyfriend did ask for my number though. I didn’t tell him. I told him I don’t want to know the ins and outs of what he’s done sexually and he was okay with that. We have very vaguely spoken about past experiences, for instance he’s told me about threesomes among other things. We’ve had the odd conversation like “ever done it in the rain?” “No. You?” “Yeah. It was okay.” But never more. I don’t mind that. I don’t want it to go further though. He has told me about stupid disgusting and embarrassing shit he got up to with his rugby team at uni though, and some of those things fuck me off on a daily basis. Some things should stay private, even between couples.

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017 - France

He knows he was my first and I know that there was one before me, it used to bother me before because I always thought the person I would be with would be a virgin like me, just the cultural upbringing I guess. It doesn’t matter anymore. 

Post # 59
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Helper bee

his is 10 and he’s my only one 🙂 granted we have an age difference and he and I started dating when I was 20 (he’s in his late 20’s). 

Post # 60
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2016

unicornphish:  My numbers 12. I bet my fiance is somewhere between 5 and 30. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  engagemee.

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