(Closed) Does your SO know your passwords?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Blushing bee

Yes, for pretty much everything except work stuff (email, etc.), and we have a joint bank account. I completely trust him with having all of my information, and it’s never really been an issue.

Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Yeah, he knows mine and vice versa.  We use each other’s phones and debit cards all the time, and I totally read his emails.  (Mainly because we’ve both accepted that I’m our social secretary and he will drop the ball on everything – except work committments – if I don’t keep track of things.)

We’ve been together for like 13 years though… you start to get pretty lazy and don’t care about privacy in the least after that long, haha.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Like others, we’ve shared various passwords with each other but don’t really remember them after a while. We keep talking about creating a paper file of all of that information for the times we might need to know. It’s on the list of perpetual “later” activities.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We have all important passwords written down in a safe place in case something happens. Our names are on all of our bank accounts together, so he has access to all of that anyways. I have one main “go to” password that I use variations of (as does he),  so if he forgets a password to a various account he just tries one of the combinations he knows. 

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yes he knows, and so do I. My passwords are usually the same, his are very different and I can’t remember which one goes with which.

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

He would if he could remember them. He has to sign onto my accounts to pay bills and he has to ask me every time what my password is. He knows my card pin too, but he never uses it.

I don’t know his passwords (he uses a different password for everything and can barely remember them himself,) but I do know his card pin number.

Post # 22
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes. He knows all of my passwords and pins and I know his. We have just learned them over the years and we have since decided to just ust the same password so that things don’t get confusing. If he didn’t want to share I would be cool with that too- the sharing just happened naturally over the course of the last four years.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’ve told him my passwords/pins when I needed him to do random things for me throughout the years & vice versa. I know he remembers my main most-used password, but the rest of them I doubt he’d remember. I know his phone password & e-mail off the top of my head, but not sure about the rest. It just kinda happened, we don’t go snooping through each others stuff though- more like I don’t have internet & need him to get into my bank account to pay a bill asap type stuff… 

Post # 24
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We know each others passwords for convenience. We don’t always remember them (my husband has some ridiculous ones) but we’ve given each other most of them at some point or another. We don’t have anything like that that we consider “private” and  the other can’t see. On the other hand, we don’t go into his email or phone or whatever unless we have some reason.

Post # 25
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Helper bee

@jbyrdy + 1

katielove:  We know all of each other’s passwords. We didn’t sit down and write lists or anything lol but over time it  just came up. For example, he might ask me to respond to an email for him or I may ask him to look at someone’s wedding pictures on my FB. We both handle banking tasks for one another. We don’t snoop or check each other’s email or text messages, although we quite easily could since we have all of the passwords etc. There is just no reason to do so- there would be nothing to find that we don’t already know about/discuss. We’re literally best friends, sharing everything was just a natural progression.

I don’t think it’s an act of trust or that couples need to share everything. Our way works for us. I think couples should do what works for them.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

We knew each others PIN numbers before we were married and shared money. Now we only know the passwords to get in each others phones. There’s no reason for him to know my email/facebook etc. passwords, but I wouldn’t be opposed to giving them to him if he asked.  

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

He knows all of my passwords and I know all of his. It isn’t exactly a “trust” thing per se, but over the years I’ve given him the pin number for my debit card, the passwords for emails, Facebook, computer, etc. He’s my Fiance, so I trust him emplicitly. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Darling Husband and I are 100% transparent with everything. He knows all of my passwords, I know all of his. We read each other’s emails, look at each other’s phone messages, and he reads my facebook (he doesn’t have one of his own). Neither of us consider any of what we do “snooping”, we’re just very open with each other.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

AB Bride:  +1!

Post # 29
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

katielove:  We have a file that we both have access to that contains all our personal information- passwords, bank account numbers, PINS , doctors, dentists, other professionals, relative. etc. This is in case we die or are otherwise disabled. We don’t see a need for it otherwise.

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