(Closed) Does your SO know your passwords?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

We know eachothers passwords. We never formally told eachother them, but there have been time’s I’ve been out without a computer and needed him to check something online for me or vice versa. Or with bank passwords, ive told him my password on cold days and i want him to pump my gas lol.

Post # 62
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We know each other PIN numbers and I know the password to his work website, but that’s about it. 

We shared our PIN numbers with each other because sometimes we need to borrow each other’s cards and since FH’s work schedule constantly changes, I wanted to be able to check his schedule for planning things we need/want to do. 

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We know all of each others passwords etc. It’s just always been that way since we met, I know it’s strange, but neither of us has breeched any trust. I mean I know his email/facebook/twitter passwords, and I never check any of his stuff, honestly because I don’t need to/want to/feel like there’s anything for me to be checking. We’ve always shared a bank account/credit card even when they were in our seperate names. Just works for us…!

Post # 63
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Buzzing bee

katielove:  We don’t know most of each other’s passwords off the top of our heads. We also don’t keep these things from one another, for example if we need the other person to do something, we will trust them with passwords and/or PIN numbers. But honestly, neither of us remembers these unless the passwords are used often, which happens for some accounts but not most.

Post # 65
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Blushing bee

I have most of his and he has most of mine. He forgets mine half the time though actually.

Post # 66
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Sugar bee

katielove:  We know eachothers, or rather KNEW since neither of us ever bother to remember it lol.

He constantly asks me for my netflix password which is the same as my email, facebook etc (or some variation of it)

I also havent used any of his accounts for quite some time, but he uses basically the same password for everything and it was a bunch of numbers and random letters lol. 

Post # 67
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yes!  I have allowed my Darling Husband to log onto numerous different things with my username/PW.  The Bee is NOT one of them. 😛

YouTube, game passwords, my laptop and PC passwords.  I’ve given all of them.  He doesn’t remember many of them.  I don’t mind either way.  I know most of his as well.

Post # 68
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340 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think there are any PW’s my OH and I haven’t shared. Like PP’s have said, it just comes with time. When you’ve been together for 6 years and you’ve lived together for most of that time, you tend to share that information at some point. 

Post # 69
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No, Darling Husband doesn’t know my PIN (although it’s a joint account, so who cares?) or my passwords to any accounts.  Honestly, I forget which passwords I also duplicate at work, so I don’t share them.  I have no problem with Darling Husband checking stuff in my email, but he wouldn’t snoop without asking first.  I trust him completely and have never asked for, or wanted, any of his passwords, either.

Post # 70
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Yup! & he has made my password his as well since he forgets his. Eh, I have nothing to hide or anything valuable hidden so no biggie. Plus were married, I wouldn’t if we were just dating (Unless we were serious).

Post # 71
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Nope! We trust each other but we both feel that couples do not need to share every single thing. Of course I’d have no problem asking him to type in my PIN if I broke my arm for example but when there’s no apparent need for sharing, we simply don’t. 

Post # 72
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Couples don’t have to share everything. You do need some of your own space. We don’t have the passwords for one another’s desktop log-ins, social media sites, email, etc. We have checked each others’ phones/responded to texts/calls on behalf of the other person occasionally. But, he’s a cautious security/computer privacy type, so the odds of him ever offering up non-essential information like that is nil. Very early on in our relationship (several years ago), that bothered me. Now, I respect it and kind of like that we each have our own separate spaces.

 

Post # 73
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Fiance and I both tend to use the same couple of passwords for everything, so while we’ve never specifically said to each other “My email password is x,” or “My FB password is y,” we know each other’s passwords generally and COULD log in to whatever we wanted. That said, we don’t. We also don’t know each other’s ATM pins, but that’s just because it has never come up. We’d tell each other if we needed to (and are combining our $$ this summer anyway).

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 8 months ago by  annb9.
Post # 74
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

katielove:  he knows some of them but never remembers them. I don’t see it as an act of trust, in fact I think the need to know others passwords is a sign of distrust. Everyone, including people in relationships deserve their right to privacy.

if you trust a person there’s no need to hve access to passwords. Knowing that info won’t stop someone from cheating on you. 

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’ve got his ATM PIN and his SSN. He has my ATM PIN and the password to my Etsy account. Meh.

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