(Closed) Does your SO pleasure himself now that you’re together?

posted 9 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Is it strange for a guy (or girl) in a serious relationship to "take care of business?"

    Yes, your SO should "fill up your love cup"

    No, everyone needs a little alone time

    Other, please explain

  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @CanAmBride: I think it’s only strange if it takes the place of sex or if sex has become infrequent. My SO “pleasures himself” every now and then, and it doesn’t bother me at all.

    Post # 4
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m gonna vote for no need to pleasure yourself….due to personal/”religious” beliefs. and I don’t think its strange for a man to not pleasure himself if he is enjoying his SO.

    but I know that 99 % of the world thinks masturbation in and out of a relationship is fine and healthy. I think its really a personal descision! 

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would think the majority of men do.

    Post # 6
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Men and women masturbate for all sorts of reasons- most of which have little or nothing to do with the availability of their SO.

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I don’t have any issue with my SO pleasuring himself if he wants to, although I suspect I do it more than he does! 

    Post # 8
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    DH definitely still pleasures himself (and so do I)!!  It doesn’t take anything away from our sex life together.  Actually, I’d say it enhances our sex together!

    Post # 9
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We don’t on our own. I was actually surprised by this as well, but hubs said he’d rather wait to be with me than do it on his own. Works for me!

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It is not strange.  Everyone needs a little alone time.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I don’t know how much/ how often he does it. But I know that I do it 5+ times a week (on my own).

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I don’t know how much/ how often he does it. But I know that I do it 5+ times a week (on my own).

    And we typically get it on 3+ times a week. So I’m not unsatisfied…

    Post # 13
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    lol Mr. T does it daily right before I get home from work. I do it often in the shower or morning. We have an awesome sex life. It doesn’t replace sex. It’s just a quick release. I can make myself orgasm in under 2 minutes. Sometimes scary quick. Your man will never know your body better than you.

    Post # 14
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    Newbee

    I don’t know if my SO does since i’ve never asked, but if he did I wouldn’t be bothered by it. I certainly have my ‘alone time’ several times a week, but it doesn’t have anything to do with our sex life (which is wonderful!). Sometimes I just want to get off quickly, and it’s a completely different experience than the time we spend together.

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Fiance and I both take care of ourselves from time to time and it’s totally fine.

    Post # 16
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I actually ask him too. It makes him last longer. But he does it anyway. I don’t know how often, I don’t ask.

    I take care of myself too. It not on a regular basis – although my Fiance encourages me to do it more often. I find it helps a lot when my sex drive is in a slump due to medical issues.

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