Post # 16
All the time! My FH and I don’t make out or anything (in fact we never really got on the track of French kissing because he is weird at it in general 😂), but he is always initiating contact. He is almost always holding my hand or guiding me gently on my lower back thru a crowd. He spontaneously will kiss me on the cheek or head, or rub my back lightly, and even once had no shame pulling me aside and giving me a small foot rub because my feet were so sore walking at an expo. That last one embarrassed me a little bit, but his intentions were in the right place! He is very affectionate, more than I am used to, but I enjoy feeling like a priority!
Post # 17
Becca3 : Yes! We are very physically affectionate. We try to be considerate in public spaces and all but we are always holding hands, hands on waist/back, touching, me laying my head on his shoulder, etc etc etc
Physical touch is both of our primary love language (along with quality time) so its a big thing for us.
He had an ex who was weird about public affection – like wouldnt even do a peck on the lips – and he hated it. You guys may be mismatched on love languages. Try to explain to your SO how important this is to you.
Post # 18
Neither of us are big on PDA and prefer to keep the kisses and affection for at home.
You need a “No, and I’m happy about it” poll option. It’s very skewed
Post # 19
My husband is very affectionate and we as are very affectionate with our little boy too. Little one LOVES group hugs and time on the couch together. I grew up in a very reserved family and I hated it, cultural thing, so I made sure to find a spouse who wasn’t afraid to show me in those little ways that he cares. Pecks in public, squeeze of the hand, a hand on the shoulder/ small of the back are the norm. I want to be that 90 yr old couple who holds each other’s hands while crossing.the street or walking around the town. It’s so sweet and always makes me tear up when I see it.
Post # 20
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
skunktastic : I was only allowed 4 poll options that I could see, but great point. I didn’t think too much about someone not being bothered either way. Thank you!
Post # 21
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
overthemoon2bee : that is amazing! He sounds like a real keeper!
Post # 22
Dh has this one exactly right. He is demonstrative, but, never clingy.
An arm around my shoulders periodically, that kind of thing. Always at just the right moments.
This, he’s got.
Post # 23
Becca3 : You don’t have an option for me.
Absolutely not. Dh and i are not affectionate people in public, and we are both happy with it. Holding hands is not comfortable (he’s a foot taller than me), and I can’t stand PDA in public.
I have some friends who will sit on their SO’s lap and kiss and cuddle during social gatherings and I find it really irritating. I don’t want to talk to a friend while they are perched on a lap.
We are very affectionate in our own home though, always cuddling and kissing and butt grabbing haha.
I think it’s the way I was raised, no one in my family is publicly affectionate, not even really to children.
Post # 24
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
There’s no poll option for No and happy about it.
Post # 25
hm2012 : lol I always joke that those 90yr old ppl holding hands do so to keep balanced!
Post # 26
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
We’re very affectionate in public and we both like it. No one would mistake us for brother and sister. We’ll kiss in public too, but not make out (maybe in a dark corner). I’m sure some people find us disgusting but we are disgustingly happy.
Post # 27
We’re affectionate, but in mild ways, like a lot of the PPs. We’ll hold hands or I’ll hook my arm through his, and he’ll sometimes place a hand on my back to guide me (I have a really bad tendency to walk into things or trip over things). We might share the rare kiss (quick peck) or hug if the situation calls for it, but that’s about it for us.
Sometimes we knock it down even further intentionally. That last thing we want to do is hang out with one of our single mutual friends and leave them feeling like a third wheel.
Post # 28
lifeisbeeutiful : LOL!! Its probably true! But who else better than your partner to do that with? 😊
Post # 29
He sure does, and I love it! As does he. ❤
Post # 30
My husband didn’t at first. It’s not very common in his culture.
However, I brought it up and he started doing it.
I think it’s a fine thing to communicate about. See why he doesn’t do it and if he’d be willing to reconsider.