Post # 1
Backstory: Basically, I write novels. I publish my own books through a manufcaturing firm and sell them myself. Today I received another copy of my book and was overjoyed – I passed it to FI and he passed it right back. He told me he’s not really into books and reading so he probably won’t read them. As in, any of the books I write. Ever. I kind of understand – I mean, I don’t take an interest in football like he does – but it hurts a little that he isn’t taking an interest in something so vital to me. I’m probably being over the top though.
If you have a hobby that your SO doesn’t share, do they make an effort to take interest in it? And vice versa, do you make an effort to pay close attention to things that matter to them even if they’re completely boring to you?
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2014 - Loft
ZebraPrintMe: Even for just the reason of him not saying “good job babe” I am sad for you. I don’t think my FI has to like most of the stuff I do because most of his hobbies don’t interest me. However I would hope that he would at least acknowledge my accomplishments. I think that is so cool of you that you do that because it makes you happy! What types of novels do you write? Congrats on your new book.
Post # 3
My husband loves my hobby. I am a knitter and I make everything he asks for. He’s a good sport too and even wears the stuff he doesn’t ask for. Lol!
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC
ZebraPrintMe: I think, at the very least, he should have taken a quick skim. However, I understand not having common hobbies. We have a few, hunting, fishing, etc. However, I have some of my own and he has some of his own and personally I like when he leaves me alone to do my own.
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC
MammaPants: My fi pretty muh makes use of everyting I crochet for him.
Post # 6
We have interests are that similiar and some that we don’t have in common at all but we try our best to at least acknowledge it and give some support.
For example I went through a crochet phase and of course he has no interest in it but he will let me do my thing and not bother me. Although once in a while he will buy me a nice ball of yarn because he thought I would like the color. He’s very supportive of my arts though. He’s always willing to buy me new pencils and pens and new digital gadgets for my drawings and stuff which is nice.
Same with me. I’m not really into his aquarium fish hobby but I’ll go out with him once a while to a fish store and help him pick pretty fish and coral even though I have NOOO idea about them. If I really don’t feel like going with him, he knows not to force me.
But if we do find something in common, we are all out with it. We are photographers and when we started it together we would take trips together to local or far jus tto take photos together so that was fun. We don’t do as much anymore now that I don’t have my camera anymore but it’s good memories nonetheless.
So it’s very give and take. At least acknowledge things here and there just to at least show that there’s some support there even though you’re not as involved. Even though your FH doesn’t want to read your books maybe at least you guys could just have a cup of coffee together while you explain what you wrote about so that there’s at least some kind of communication and acknowledgement there.
CONGRATS though!! Wow!! I’ve always wanted to get a book published but never got the courage or patience to write a book. Good for you!! That’s awesome!! what kind of stuff do you write?
Post # 7
ZebraPrintMe: Wow. That’s really sad that he would’t even read it, but I have to admit: FI hasn’t really read anything I’ve written. I freelance for a local magazine, but I’m also writing a novel and have written several short stories. Sometimes he’ll read them over, but more than not, he tells me how proud he is and never offers to read them. At first it really bothered me, but then again, he doesn’t really read at all. Other hobbies I have though (crafting and wedding related things) FI has taken a big part of. He loves when I sit down to make something and usually offers to help out. On the flip side, I loathe 90% of the video games he plays and whenever he asks me to join in I want to claw my eyes out, but will join occassionly. Luckily, we have several other things we like to do together that balance out the complete opposites we have.
Post # 8
Tanleggedjuliet: awesome! My husband asks for pretty cool stuff, and the guys he work with love seeing what’s next. Makes me feel like my time and energy are worth it.
Post # 9
ZebraPrintMe: Haha. Not really as my hobbies revolve around shopping for jeans and makeup. But fishing is our shared hobby and we enjoy it very much together.
Post # 10
FI takes an interest in all of my hobbies, most of them are shared hobbies but we have a couple of them that aren’t eachothers cup of tea.
Right now FI is trying to show me how to play Magic the Gathering so he has a buddy to play with when he can’t play it with the guys. It’s confusing as all heck but it makes him really happy!
Right now for me, I’m picking up my doll hobby again(I paint them) and FI has been very supportive of that. Today he bought me a small wooden chair at a flea market to display my dolls, it’s in rough shape and he’s going to sand it for me. That’s an act of love right there, considering he hates sanding yet it was his idea. I’m over the moon!
You don’t have to do everything together but if your partner wants to include you, I think it’s fair that you at least try.
Post # 11
My husband has zero interest in my hobbies/interests: knitting, jogging, opera, ballet… all those lame girly things… Well… Not the jogging as girly I guess… Anyway! That being said, he goes to at least one “culture shock” event with me every year (this year we saw the Moscow Festival Ballet perform “Cinderella”), he’s made it to every one of my recitals and operas, and he will request little things from my knitting habit.
Similarly, I will stand in the freezing cold garage with him in the middle of December and hand him tools while he works on cars at 2 am and I will ride along when he has the urge to go mudding or fishing.
I think your SO should at least have acknowledged that you did something great! Congrats on getting your best book published!
Post # 12
And that was supposed to say “newest” not “best”, although I’m sure it is wonderful!
Post # 13
I think he should have at least said “good job.” or something. :/
My hobby is horseback riding, I own two horses and do horse shows every now and again, it’s a super big part of my life, and while he doesn’t have a real interest in it, he’ll come down to the barn every once an a while and pet the horses or go for a ride with me. He also listens to me drone on about them.
In turn while I’m not too interested in hockey or his cars, I’ll watch a game with him or attempt to help him with the cars, even though I have no idea what he’s talking about.
Post # 14
I’m really sorry that he didn’t even say well done or anything :/
Recently I bought a sudoku book, FI noticed and wanted to do some, we’ve since bought five more and are doing them together 🙂 I love reading, and if I think a book I’m reading will interest FI, I’ll tell her about it and most of the time she’ll give it a go. FI likes soccer, and because Nicaragua doesn’t have a team, she support Real Madrid. So I always watch with her (I like it too though, thanks dad!) We do almost everything together haha
Post # 15
He should make an effort to read or at least show enthusiam over getting your book!
I’m an animal lover (2 dogs, a cat(his), snake, lizard, fish, geckos, and more if i had the time money space) I obsess over them, he’s a huge gamer. Usually he finds it hard to talk with me about animals and me with games but we found a happy middle. I will plays what few games I enjoy with him or sit with him while he plays and talks about thestuff i don’t understand or care about. He also listens to me rant about crappy pet owners and helps me train my dogs.