Post # 17
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
We always tell each other. Plus, we always kiss each other, say good bye and I love you, before we go anywhere separately.
Now, when he was working third shift, I didn’t wake him to tell him good bye and I love you. I always left him a note so he would know where I was, and the note always said I love you. That would be the only exception to always telling each other.
Post # 18
That’s pretty inconsiderate of him. We always tell each other when we’re leaving, unless one of us is napping and the other needs to run to the store or some other quick errand.
Post # 19
I think this is really strange.. One time I woke up from a nap and my Fiance was gone and I couldn’t get a hold of him, turns out he took my car to waa fit and wanted to surprise me. That’s the only time anything similar to what your guy is doing has ever happened,
Post # 20
The only time this has happened (him NOT telling me he was leaving) was when I was sleeping and he was making a quick run to surprise me with breakfast without waking me. Any other time? I know he’s leaving.
Post # 21
Been over an hour and haven’t heard anything. No lunch for him, unless that’s what he’s doing.
Post # 22
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
We always tell each other. It would be so strange if one of us just up and left.
Post # 23
Hmm. Yes and no I guess. If we’re at home together, yes. But he generally gets off work before me and sometimes he’ll go to happy hour with friends, visit his family, shopping, etc & I won’t know until he gets home. We’re still individuals so I respect that.
Post # 24
We always know roughly where the other person is and when they’ll be back – we’re in an LDR so obviously we don’t know every time someone leaves the house, but we definitely send an email to say we’re going to the gym/to run errands/out with friends and roughly when we’re coming back. For us, it’s just a matter of respect (and common-sense, because if we didn’t hear from each other for hours and hours we’d worry a bit, and wouldn’t easily be able to find out if something was wrong).
Post # 25
i’m the only one who drives so we always leave together. The only time I don’t is when he’s sleeping at 5am and I run out to get coffee/breakfast as a wake up treat.
Post # 26
I’m the only one who drives, too, so if Fiance wants to go somewhere far, I know. 🙂 But when I leave, I don’t always tell him. I don’t think it’s a big deal and neither does he.
Post # 27
We tell each other if we’re even just popping outside to check the mail.
Post # 28
We always tell each other, but Fiance and I live in a small apartment together so I’d have to see him walk out the door if he left. FI’s job is also very busy so it’s the rare once every couple of weeks that he socializes without me. If he’s not at home, and hasn’t told me otherwise, he’s at work. That being said, he doesn’t usually tell me when he’ll be home from work and it varies a lot. I’m guessing you guys live in a much larger place and socialize a lot more so I could understand how it’d work differently for you.
Post # 29
that’s strange to me – if Fiance left without telling me I’d be annoyed.
We tell each other where we’re going all the time – heck, even if I wake up early before him and run to the bakery or donut shop to grab a breakfast treat I’ll leave a note. He’s out of town for business right now and still calls me “yup, leaving the hotel, going to xyz for dinner, I’ll call you when I’m back”. I’m a worrier, so I like knowing where he is…but it’s something we’ve always done.
Post # 30
OP, that situation is bizarre to me. Fiance and I don’t leave the house without saying goodbye to each other, unless in the rare occasion where like he’s sleeping and I’m running to the grocery store or something, then I’ll leave a note. If he left without saying goodbye, I’d be annoyed.
Post # 31
I don’t think he’s ever left the house without letting me know when/where he’s going. I always let him know if I’m leaving for a while, too. I would think it was pretty weird if he was just running off without saying anything. That’s quite the red flag to me.