(Closed) Does your SO tell you if he's leaving for an amount of time?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does your SO tell if when he's leaving?

    Yes - all the time, even if its for a short time.

    Sometimes - but only if its longer then x time.

    Hardly ever, to never

    Other.

  • Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yes, if I’m at home. If I’m at work, he doesn’t give me a run-down of all the errands he’s running, that is until I get home.

    Post # 33
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Yes when we lived together… But since we have been living seperate 🙁 We still do tell eachother when the other is leaving or where we are. Actually just the other day I called my SO thinking he was at home but he said he was at Auto Zone. I thought wtf? he didnt tell me he was going there! LOL.

    Post # 34
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We always tell each other where we’re going. Even if one of us is at work and the person home is stepping out for a few, we still text one another to let them know. And we always have to know when the other is home. It’s been habit since we started dating and it’s stuck.

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If we’re both home, we always tell each other where we’re going (and he likes to invite me along if he’s running errands or heading to Home Depot, he says he likes te company: and we’ve had some excellent errand-adventres together). 

    If we’re heading out separately, we always kiss each other goodbye in te doorway or driveway.

    If only one of us is home, then we’ll let each other know if one person is expecting the other to be home.

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Fi tells me when he is leaving all the time. But he does NOT always tell me for how long, where, and when he will get back. I got really upset with Fiance last night because he said he was going to a friends place to watch football. He came home at 4 am and said he went to a bar/dance club. I never heard from him through the night and couldn’t sleep. Not cool.

    Post # 37
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yes, we always tell eachother when we are leaving for any amount of time.  I think it’s strange if you don’t.

    Post # 38
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    Helper bee

    It’s kind of weird for him to not say anything, not even a shouted ‘goodbye’. If two people are at home together and one leaves, it’s just common curtesy so say goodbye. I don’t need to know every single detail about what my SO plans to do etc, but he always lets me know if he’s going out. If he just got up and left without saying anything I’d be pretty confused lol

    Post # 41
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Wow, rude.

    Post # 42
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @seevan07:  Yea, I would have a problem with that.

    I really don’t see a problem with just running to the store or something for an hour or so and not telling my Fiance where I’m going.  He’s never expressed an issue with it.  I certainly don’t think that’s a “red flag” in our relationship.  If he wants to walk downtown for something quick and doesn’t tell me just because I’m watching TV or something how is that different that him doing the same when I’m at work and not calling to tell me he’s headed down to the pizza shop – at least that’s how I see it.

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    @CherryWaves:  He came in the house, I asked where he was and turns out he did go to town to pick up a part (something that in his mind is a few min, but is actually over an hour), got a snack then walked back outside.  Haven’t seen him inside since.  I think next time I’ll just leave the yard and not tell him where I’m going and see what he thinks…

    If it’s important to you that he let’s you know when he’s leaving, why don’t you just talk to him about it? I don’t see that you’ve indicated that you have in your posts.  He’s probably like me and doesn’t think it’s a big deal.  How will you feel if when you try that he doesn’t even notice you’re gone? 😛

    Post # 43
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    He does always tell me, yes.  I can’t imagine him just leaving without saying goodbye and I wouldn’t do that, either!  I would feel that it was rude.  Not that either of us is on a short leash (not by any stretch), but I do think it’s a common courtesy to let each other know where we’re off to, even if it’s just for planning purposes (eg. meal planning).

    Post # 44
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Yeah, Fiance didn’t get why it was upsetting to me, but he apologized. We’ve run into this before, and though it rarely happens, he still hasn’t changed his behavior. It’s a work in progress.

    Post # 45
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I voted sometimes, but that would be like 99.9% of the time.  The only execption is if his fire pager goes off and then he will text me as soon as possible.   That has only happened once this summer while he was mowing the lawn.   Usually he has to come for his keys into the house or I’m within earshot of hearing the tones on the pager.

    Post # 46
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    My husband always tells me if he’s stepping out, he doesn’t just leave.

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