(Closed) Does your SO tell you if he's leaving for an amount of time?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does your SO tell if when he's leaving?

    Yes - all the time, even if its for a short time.

    Sometimes - but only if its longer then x time.

    Hardly ever, to never


  • Post # 47
    7547 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Yes, he always tells me when he’s leaving. Why don’t you talk to your DH and tell him why it’s unsafe for him to leave without notifying you? He may think telling you is like asking permission, but if you explain the practical reasons he might come around. 

    Post # 48
    687 posts
    Busy bee

    Voted yes – always. If once of us is napping we leave a note on the table.

    Post # 49
    1413 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

    My dad does it to my mom all the time, and it drives ME up the wall because I worry about where he is at his age. 

    Post # 50
    1626 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yeah my dh used to leave (only very occasionally) while I wassleeping.  Now he wakes me up totell me he’s leaving and I wish he wouldn’t hahaha.  But other than that I pretty much know what he’s doing.  Now, since he started a new semester of law school I’vebeen calling to see what time he get home.  Thursday he called me to tell me before I called him. Laughing

    Post # 51
    2224 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    We don’t live together so we don’t really keep tabs on eachother. I don’t feel the need to know whenever he goes to home depot or mcdonalds and that he doesnt need to know when I bring my kid to school or if I’m going out with friends- I’ll tell him about it later if there was anything to chat about. 

    At home, I also prefer to be anle to just walk out the door if I feel like it. But with my dad, I know he’ll get bummed out if I don’t tell him I’m leaving if hes not present by the door to say ‘bye’ to, so I’ll go find him to say bye. My mom though, if shes not around for me to say bye to she knows I’m always in a hurry to get out the door (I have a tendency to run late :(! ).

    I imagine that in the future however, SO and I will expect to know when the other is leaving and get a ‘bye love ya!’

    Post # 52
    684 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    My DH usually lets me know where he is going. If he is not at home, he will send me a text letting me know what he is up to. I am less diligent. If I am running errands or something I will not bother sending him a note until I am on my way home.

    Post # 53
    2564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We always let each other know where we’ll be, it’s just a courtesy thing IMO.

    Post # 54
    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    i would be very angry if my SO just left without a word….

    Post # 55
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    My Fiance always lets me know where he is going, and the same goes for me. I’ld be so annoyed if that was not the case. I think that is common courtesy to anyone and the least your SO.

    Post # 56
    13094 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    The only time DH would leave without telling me is if I was asleep and he didn’t want to wake me.

    Otherwise, he always lets me know.

    Post # 57
    529 posts
    Busy bee

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    @happyface:  this! We never say goodbye without a smooch (or 10) so I can’t imagine him actually leaving without telling me. He does sometimes work outside the house on the weekends at crazy hours like 6am when I am still passed out but he almost always remembers to tell me the night before so I don’t wake up and wonder where he is. 

    Post # 58
    7899 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Now, yes; when we first got together, no. Once we started living together, we started informing each other more and more about such things.

    Post # 59
    3798 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    He always tells me where he is going, even if it is just to put gas in the car. 

    I don’t always tell him where I am going, oops! If I forget he usually texts me to find out.

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