Post # 1
Hi bees, as a waiting bee this place has become my pre-engagement sanctuary. I can vent, I can distract and I can keep myself busy. All to try and keep sane!
My dear SO has noticed I go onto the computer a bit.. usually typing away on posts, but I have never let him see what I am up to.
Now he keeps asking me what website I keep going on and why I am typing away like crazy, and I am too embarassed to tell him the truth! He is always joking that it’s wedding related, but I don’t think I can say I am actually contributing and posting with my life experiences if that makes sense?
Anyway, he won’t drop it. And I think it’s starting to annoy him that I won’t tell him. Any other bees come across this? Did you tell you partner what you were up to? How did they take it?
Just curious, I’m tempted to tell him but I’m embarassed as were not even engaged yet.
Post # 3
@spaneshal: I just joined recently, after talking to my family about the not being engaged yet issue (see my Need Advice ! post!), but my SO doesn’t know I am asking random other girls who are in the same boat for advice! I figure I will let him know about the awesomeness that is weddingbee once we ARE engaged, and being able to talk with other couples will help plan a wedding!
Post # 4
I’m not waiting, but I tell my Fiance. Usually I’ll go through the boards and open up all ther threads that look interesting in separate tabs – sometimes I’ll have about 20 tabs open, and he sees this and then comes and looks. He usually laughs at the “silly” things I am ready. He calls me a girl for it. But I don’t mind if he knows!
Post # 5
I think my SO would have a panic attack if I told him!! I work from home a lot though, so he thinks its totally normal that I’m online constantly. Maybe you can tell him, but gloss over it a little. You don’t want to scare him with the bee, but you dont want him thinking that you’re up to something sketchy. Good luck!
Post # 6
no! hide, decoy browser windows, or on my mobile! I would be mortified.
Post # 7
My mister knows that I look through wedding planning blogs and is fine with it as long as it “makes me happy” though I don’t think he knows the extent of my activity here on the ‘bee. I mention it casually every so often but other than that, he just shrugs and goes about his business.
Post # 8
@spaneshal: I’m in the same boat and the Bee too has become my pre-engagement sanctuary. My SO knows I come on here and wasn’t as freaked out as I imagined he would be. Apparently he finds it sweet and endearing that I’m committed to our future and am looking forward to becoming his wife. But that’s just him and I can’t vouch for anyone else’s reaction – lol I think I lucked out. He gets it though – this is where I can get all the wedding talk out of my system so I’m not continuously going on about dresses and such with him when we’re years away from actually getting married.
Post # 11
I haven’t told my Boyfriend or Best Friend, but seeing as now if you type “w” into the address bar on my laptop weddingbee is the first suggestion to come up, I think he must have seen the web address at some point. I hope he doesn’t go snooping though because if he saw my username he would definitely know it was me!
Post # 12
Prior to us getting engaged, he knew what I was doing butttt I had an excuse because I was working as a wedding coordinator. Now that we’re engaged, I have no shame! Haha
Post # 13
Yes, he knows. He’ll peek on once in awhile as well to see what I’m up to. 😉
Post # 14
I was a lurker before getting engaged and told him about a cool website I found but that was it, after we got engaged and I joined and became obssesed with it he found out my account name and now sometimes checks my activity for fun. I know some might find it weird but I tell him about it anyways so it’s fine.
Post # 15
I tell him it’s “my forum website.” I’ve always described it to him as a women’s website. He doesn’t pry further. I think he gets it. He has him “man” sites and I have mine. 🙂
Post # 16
He knows I have wedding websites where I go on and read through the forums and that I occasionally post things to get opinions. I don’t think he realizes I post pictures and talk about him though. He probably wouldn’t like me posting pictures of him. I always log out though, so he can’t see what I post and accidentally see my dress or something.