(Closed) Does your SO/FI/DH always ejaculated when having sex?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How often does your man ejaculates during sex?
    Always- no way he would stop without : (133 votes)
    66 %
    Almost every time : (57 votes)
    28 %
    Sometimes- about half of the times : (6 votes)
    3 %
    Not always-like less than half of the times : (4 votes)
    2 %
    Never :( : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    2640 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    @candy11:  If you are both new to this, it could just be that he is nervous, which doesn’t help. Keep doing it, and you guys will figure it out ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 4
    9114 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Yes. If he manages to go for an “immediate round 2” he generally won’t ejaculate the second time, but always the first. We’ve never had sex where he didn’t cum.

    ETA: A man doesn’t need to ejaculate to get off. It could be nerves or performance anxiety. Do not call attention to the fact that he didn’t ejaculate. He knows, you don’t need to bring it up in case it is a source of embarassment.

    Just make sure both of your needs are being met and you’re set for life.

    Post # 7
    4979 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Round 1: Always.

    Round 2 (on the rare occasions we even try): Usually. Depending on how long he had to “recharge” in between.

    Post # 9
    963 posts
    Busy bee

    Just have fun the rest will fall into place with time.

    Post # 10
    2640 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    @candy11:  I know a guy who didn’t ejaculate for at least a few months with his first one- he was so nervous about doing a good job!

    Maybe if you use relaxation as foreplay, you’ll get the desired results. For example, you two could give each other massages, or take a bubble bath together. Then, when it is time to “get it on,” you’ll both be relaxed and able to let loose more than before. 

    The hardest thing about a new or first sexual partner, is it takes time to figure out what the other likes- hence the nervous energy. Don’t worry, you’ll figure out each others buttons soon enough!

    Post # 11
    9114 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @candy11:  I wouldn’t be worried. Like you said, you’re new at this! Take a lot of time to seriously explore one another. Find out what he likes. Does he like a bit of oral foreplay (This can help “work him up” to orgasm) or maybe half a handjob before sex? Maybe stimulating different parts of his genitals? My husband really likes it when I drag my nails up his inner thigh. He may not be able to just get off solely from sex and needs some coaxing towards the edge. Plus, it’s fun, it heightens the mood for both of you, and you get to explore one another and really find out what you both enjoy and what you don’t.

    Post # 13
    1797 posts
    Buzzing bee

    He usually does, but not always. He seriously was freaking out for a while because he thought he was “broken” because he could never ejactulate. Then we went on vacation, and he was literally able to have sex 3-4 times a day and ejaculate every time. We were both shocked, but then we realized that it’s probably because we live with parents, so it’s hard to find alone time without worrying if someone is just going to barge in LOL.


    Another thing you may want to bring up is how often he is masturbating. I know when my SO and I first started having sex he had trouble due to a combination of nerves and the fact that he was still masturbating a few times a week. He stopped for a week or so, and then everything went really well the next time we tried. 

    Post # 15
    1018 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @candy11:  Don’t worry! My Fiance didn’t always finish when we were first together. It’s a performance anxiety thing and it is totally normal, I promise! As you guys get more practice and he gets more comfortable and knows he’s pleasing you (make sure he knows!), things will get better :). 


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