(Closed) Does/did anybody else get this reaction to your long engagement? So annoying!

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
Hostess
3882 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

My more religious family has given me grief about our 17 month engagement, and it’s gone by quickly so far! A lot of my cousins had 3-5 month engagements so I guess our “long” one is just weird. Most of my friends had 10 months-2.5 years though, so I wouldn’t think anything of it 🙂 More time to save and enjoy being engaged!

Post # 17
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3185 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

fromsmithtodavis:  I already have a dress but no one liked it so I scheduled an appointment near me for tomorrow. I got a call saying there was a Mix up in the times. So my 1130am appointment is now 3. This is why I am having a long engagement. I’m not stressed lol.more time to plan more time to get stuff done.

Post # 18
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017 - France

We got engaged in 2013 and are getting married in 2017, my mother said it was too long and other people have me grief too but i had to move from the Caribbean to France and we have to buy a house and plan a wedding, it was not cheap to do the move especially since the economy is so bad back home so we need all this time to save money, they said oh you can do a court wedding, that’s not how it works in France lol it still takes time and there are a lot of paperwork involved, i let it roll off my back.

Post # 19
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1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

fromsmithtodavis:  W were engaged in May of this year and are getting marrie din January 2017. A lot of people (and vendors) have given us grief over our longer engagement, but I just let them know that we didn’t really have a choice. Planning a wedding within a year with all the other stuff going on wasn’t feasible, and we both have a really bad feeling about 2016. So we bumped to 2017.

Post # 20
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218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I work with a lady who was engaged to her husband for almost 10 years! They’d already bought a house and had a child together and everything. But things kept coming up and they just never quite got around to setting a date or going through with all the official stuff. They finally tied the knot this past summer. 

Ignore the people who keep giving you crap. It’s none of their business. As long as you’re happy together and committed to one another that’s all that should matter

Post # 21
Member
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Oh my gosh! Date twins x2!! We got engaged on August 1st 2015 and are getting married October 21 2017. Whenever someone makes a comment about the length of our engagement I just explain that I want to finish my degree first and most people back off. 

Post # 25
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We get the same grief from people. We got engaged August 1 2015 and set our date for October 14 2017. We need time to save money and the date is of significance to both of us and our families. I bought my dress last weekend and plan to lock down the last of our vendors at the first of the year. Its nice to have a lot of it done and enjoy our engagement.

Post # 26
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3903 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

fromsmithtodavis:  we got engaged in May 2015 and set the date for July 2017… the first 2 months we kept saying we havent set the date and in july we started telling July 2016, and people would say you nean next July? And I would be like nope the one after that lol and they would say omg why so long away,.some of my coworkers were like why dont you just do it next spring and you know what I started to say? Lol of you’ll pay for it,we’ll do it next month! They stopped. Ugh so annoying. At my new job one of then older nurses, when she found out (this month) that i am engaged and that tye date is in July 2017 she was like why are you waiting so long and I said cause we have to save some money, I’m so happy I.got this new job blah blah and she was like… what do you want a wedding with all the bells and whistles? I looked at her like she was bat shit crazy and said no, actually we want to keep it simle but Fiance has a large family and weddings arent as cheap as they were 20-30 years ago…some nerve people have. I cant wait till Jan rolls around so I can start saying the wedding is next summer.

Post # 27
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130 posts
Blushing bee

we got engaged in July 2015 and we haven’t set a date yet but it’ll probably be in 2017. We haven’t set a date yet because I’m goung through a lengthy immigration process to move to the US and I want to plan from there since that’s where we’ll be married! People always seem so surprised we’re waiting that long. It’s extremely annoying! 

On the other hand if we had a short engagement people would ask “why so soon?!?”

So in the end, you can’t make people happy and you shouldn’t try to! It’s all about what’s right for you and your FI! Happy planning! 🙂

Post # 28
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929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

fromsmithtodavis:  Probably over the next 6 months or so. When we got engaged we said between the 1.5-2 year point is when we’d like to do venue and then slowly work out other stuff. I happen to be moving away for 12 months to finish school and I’ll be coming back just before the wedding so we’ll probably get the big logistical stuff out of the way pretty early on. How about you??

Post # 29
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450 posts
Helper bee

I had s 3 year engagement because I had to factor in my daughters’ schooling and examinations since I had to move to live with my husband.  The rudest response was from a bee scoffing because I said I had 868 days to go!  Well I can tell you that time went pretty fast most of the time and we organised and paid for an amazing wedding!  Your time will come and ignore the negativity!!

Post # 30
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129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

fromsmithtodavis:  lol I feel your pain! We got engaged the day after you 2 august 2015 and our wedding is may 2017. I have even had some people say are u sure by then u will still want to marry him!! Like what?!! Lol

We are having a destination wedding and wanted to give people sufficient notice as well as have time to save and enjoy the whole thing rather than do it quickly and be super stressed!  

I can’t wait till January 1st too so can say we are getting married next year lol! 

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