(Closed) Doesn’t have “time” to get engaged right now…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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474 posts
Helper bee

::hugs:: I know how you feel!

Start keeping yourself extra busy (a la Mr. Bee) – that is what has been helping me. I have made plans to visit out of town friends, have been working out a ton and  started reading again. I may even start volunteering on weekends too!

It also sounds like he is trying to throw you off and find a time to surprise you!

Post # 4
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I feel like he’s just pushing you aside, based on all your posts–that perhaps he’s just stalling instead of being honest and telling you he isn’t ready/doesn’t want to get engaged. You’re always upset he hasn’t proposed yet, he doesn’t come visit, makes excuses, and brushes you off…I’d probably drop ALL the ring talk (you bring it up, he shoots it down–what does that tell ya?) and forget about the engagement and just try to be happy BEING with him. And if you can’t be happy without a ring on your finger, have a SERIOUS talk about it. I just feel like you are SO upset without the engagement being here that it’s taking over your life and probably overwhelming your SO.

Post # 6
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603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Just keep trying to be a busy bee! I know its rough believe me lol. There is never a perfect time to engaged IMO. I hope he realizes that soon!!

Post # 7
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I second ejs’s sentiments.. be sure that you’re happy just being with him. it sounds like things are strained – be sure that everything is good, as is, before talking about rings and engagement. BE SURE! And honestly, if you can just be a happy woman with a happy boyfriend, things will probably move along. If you continue to focus on the engagement, no one is happy.

Post # 8
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162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Dear CuteLittleBuzzingBee,

I’m new in the site but just read some of your posts and they really concerned me, since you said you have been a little bit down lately, just wanted to know how things were going and if you’re doing ok.

I don’t want to judge without knowing enough but from some of your posts it seems that  your Boyfriend or Best Friend doesn’t give you reasons to trust his promises and the relationship doesn’t let you have peace… do you think that getting engaged would change the way he has been behaving? I’m not saying it won’t, just asking you to please think about it before you commit to someone, you have to be 100% he’s the one that will make you happy and help you be well.

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