Post # 1
Do you have any routine you do before you leave the house to make your dog less sad (or, should I say – makes you feel less guilty!) that you are leaving?
My dog gave me the saddest, most longing face (when I left for work today – Darling Husband was already gone)… She also had the most depressed body posture: Sitting, back towards me, face slumped over her shoulder, with big, droopy eyes.
BREAK MY HEART!!!
Darling Husband usually gives her a biscuit/treat before he leaves, but we’ve had to stop all treats while we get her GI issues figured out…
Just curious how you handle the sad looks of “why are you abandoning me!!!!”
Post # 3
I don’t do anything special and just yell out “Bye Melvin” because he’s usually sleeping somewhere when I leave. If it’s thundering out, and he’s scared, then he sits by the front door in protest so I won’t leave. That’s heartbreaking, and I usually just stay with him until the storm is over (I have very flexible hours at work). I guess I’m a total pushover. haha.
Post # 4
I just pat him on the head and leave. Sorry but i dont really project human emotions onto my pet. As long as i dont have anxiety about leaving, he wont have it either.
They are fine when we are gone!! Sure they would rather have our company but they can keep themselves entertained until we come back.
Post # 5
We actually try NOT to give our dog much attention before we leave. We’ve found that the more attention she gets, the sadder she is when we leave. Too much attention also reinforces the feelings of owner home=good, owner gone=bad. This is what we were told would help with separation anxiety and it works somewhat.
That being said, I feel SO bad leaving every day and I try to make it up to her all night.
Post # 6
Our dog has graduated from staying in the crate to staying in the the guest bedroom/bathroom when we leave. Every time we leave the house we tell her she’s going to get some peanut butter and we put peanut butter on a big kong toy that is safe for her to play with unsupervised. She’s so busy being excited about the peanut butter that she doesn’t get upset when we shut the door behind her. However, I don’t know if that is feasible if your dog is currently having GI problems.
Post # 7
Try the sad look x3….I don’t know, we pet all three of their heads, tell them to be good and that we’ll be home later…then as we walk out the door we tell the cat to keep an eye on the mutts and hope for the best before locking the door…with the 99 Boys anything can and does happen!
Post # 8
We dog proof it on the way out the door… shut all bedroom and bathroom doors, no pens out, nothing edible, all cords put away, no valuable objects out, and normally we’ll leave the tv on. but if pens or anything edible are out.. they eat it.. cords (like from the computer) they always get tripped up in an make things fall… Occasionally they’ll pick some random object and tear it to shreds… they just get hyper when we’re gone and noone’s there to tell them to behave. The last object they destroyed was a pillow.. they decided to play tug-o-war with it…
Post # 9
Our dog goes in the guest bedroom when we’re out. He senses when we’re leaving. We always give him a treat when we put him in there, so as soon as he sees us getting the treat he runs to the room and gets on the bed.
Post # 10
I try not to give her to much attention otherwise if we do she cries/barks louder/longer!
She knows when we are leaving. Her tail starts wagging and she rushes to the bathroom to watch me get ready, then runs to the living room to see what my husband is doing. We take her to alot of places so she knows. lol But if I give her more attention, then she knows she is going. If I leave her alone she gets the picture that she isn’t going. 🙂
Post # 11
@Swizzle: +1. I don’t feel bad leaving my dog because even when I’m home all day he really doesn’t do much other than just sleep lol
Post # 12
@Swizzle: I’m kind of like that. Once I put my shoes on, he knows I am about to leave and he runs to the door for me to take him out one last time. I also give him a treat if he goes to the bathroom, so once his business is done he runs to his cage to wait on the treat. That’s about it, though.
Post # 13
@Swizzle: a co-worker told me something similar (about humans projecting emotions on their dogs and how they may not really be feeling what we think they are feeling) and when we first got her, I was in that camp. But I really do think she was SAD today! Just as she’s super happy when she sees us. I don’t think those basic emotions are a projection but reality! (at least with my particular dog)…
Post # 14
Tell me about is, I have to literally just yall over my shoulder “goodbye panda-wanda” (her nickname) If I look then I probably would never be able to leave the house because I would just feel so bad leaving her.
Post # 15
Mine are usually either sleeping when I leave or just about to sleep. Or maybe busy doing something else and don’t really care, lol. They usually cuddle me when I’m home, and when I get up to leave a lot of times they shoot me a look like “hey, I was using you as a pillow!” but then they settle back down and they’re fine.
Post # 16
We gate them in our room when we leave for work so I just yell “buy guys” as I walk out the door. They know the routine, they don’t get sad.