(Closed) Dog Owners- Is This Normal??

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sounds like he might have very mild separation anxiety or some worry about being left alone.

He’s still adjusting to the new house so give him some time. Does he have a crate/safe place?

Just make sure not to reward the crying (by talking to him or immediately coming back and giving him attention) as soon as he is quiet then he gets the praise reward. 

Also, when you leave the room or the house, do so for different amount of time. Sometimes only stay away until he’s quiet. Other times, stay away as long as you need to so he doesn’t always associate being left in a room with being left alone for a long period of time.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@KatNYC2011:  Agree!  Crate training is awesome and really gives them a sense of a “home” with their own space.  I’ve also heard that thunder shirts help with separation anxiety, but I’ve never tried one  (that advice came from Future Sister-In-Law who is a vet so I’m going on her recommendation)

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yep, seperation anxiety, although it sounds like its not terribly bad.  I pet sat for a black lab puppy with such bad seperation anxiety she would claw at the doors and cry for hours and she even shat on the floor every time no matter how long of a walk she had before we left….it was a mess. 

 

Another good thing to do is to walk around your house ignoring him, going in doors and shutting them before coming out at different lengths of time as Kat has said.  It’ll take consistancy and time but it sounds like he can get over it!  Just as Kat said though don’t reward his behaviour by petting him or talking to him as he cries, only praise him and pet him a lot when he is quiet 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Ya thats definitely seperation anxiety. Does he do it when you leave the house too?

Ignore him when he whines.  He wants your attention but you need to make it clear that behaviour wont be accepted.  Give him praise when he’s quiet. And when its time for him to be alone make it clear and dont back peddal. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2002

my puppy is about 10 months old now, and about 7 months old when we left for 9 days on a cruise. my dad came over and puppy sat (lambeau 7 months old then and lucy 4 months old then) so they could stay together and in their home – but they acted funny.

and when we came home we definitely found out quickly that lambeau was acting different! now every morning when were just getting ready for work he whines and pouts and gets all lazy depressed-ish. 

the vet told us it was because when we left for our cruise he now thinks were always going to be gone for that long. we try talking to him to tell him that we’ll be back and things every time and are gone for different periods of time. in the beginning we would give him a treat when we left the room and said good boy – so he would learn that its okay and its good for him to be in there. and then ignore any whining. he wont whine now if we walk away unless were at the vet. lol

he also loves to be in our bedroom with us. if Fiance wakes up before me and takes the dog, lambeau will sit at the door and whine to come back in with me. weve had him as a puppy so definitely no neglect or anything. but it is weird! the vet did tell us though that theres medicine and things to help. so if your new pup doesnt adjust within a month or so – id check in with the vet!

find him a blanket or crate to love! he might feel better in a confined space with something like that as well. good luck!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2002

my puppy is about 10 months old now, and about 7 months old when we left for 9 days on a cruise. my dad came over and puppy sat (lambeau 7 months old then and lucy 4 months old then) so they could stay together and in their home – but they acted funny.

and when we came home we definitely found out quickly that lambeau was acting different! now every morning when were just getting ready for work he whines and pouts and gets all lazy depressed-ish. 

the vet told us it was because when we left for our cruise he now thinks were always going to be gone for that long. we try talking to him to tell him that we’ll be back and things every time and are gone for different periods of time. in the beginning we would give him a treat when we left the room and said good boy – so he would learn that its okay and its good for him to be in there. and then ignore any whining. he wont whine now if we walk away unless were at the vet. lol

he also loves to be in our bedroom with us. if Fiance wakes up before me and takes the dogs, lambeau will sit at the door and whine to come back in with me. weve had him as a puppy so definitely no neglect or anything. but it is weird! the vet did tell us though that theres medicine and things to help. so if your new pup doesnt adjust within a month or so – id check in with the vet!

find him a blanket or crate to love! he might feel better in a confined space with something like that as well. good luck!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

When we get foster dogs that have this problem, we crate train. But we also do this:

When you leave the room or are going out for the night, put the dog in the crate with the door shut. Do not say goodbye to the dog or acknowledge him. And it helps to give him a toy or treat to distract him. Finish getting ready where he can see you. Then walk out the door and close it completely (do not talk or slam the door). In a couple minutes, come back in to the room or house (even if he is crying or not) and walk around in front of him, still without acknowleding the dog’s presence. Then leave. You can do this serveral times so he learns to trust that he wont be alone for long. It does take a week or two for him to get used to it, but we never see problems past two weeks of doing this routine.

Dogs just want to know that you are eventually coming back. By reassuring him that you will, he will get more self confidence.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

One technique I heard about is to condition your dog to get used to you leaving that starts with you leaving the room for only a few seconds, then coming back in and making a big deal over your dog (give pets, praise, treats, etc).  Continue this process multiple times for a few days and then start making the increments that you’re gone a little bit longer, like 2 minutes, then 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, always making sure to give lots of love when you come back in the room.  This way, the dog associates you coming back with treats and affection…Our dog doesn’t have separation anxiety so I never really had to use it but I thought it might be an effective technique! 

Good luck, your pup is adorable!! 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs_Amanda:  Try using a peanut butter kong (freeze it and it will last for hours!) to get him in the crate.  Also, if you have an old blanket to drape over the crate it will make it more like a den & he might be a little more comfortable in it.  You recently got him, right?  Maybe he’s just going through an adjustment period, I’m sure he’ll get used to you guys & your routine.  Hang in there 🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just replied on your other post too but I’ll weigh in with my two cents!  I think this is completely normal and we went through a very similar thing.  The suggestions about practicing leaving for short periods and work up to longer ones are great, but we found our dog was fine when we completely left the house and was displaying more anxiety when we were home but couldnt give her attention for whatever reason (sleeping, doing dishes like your example, cleaning, getting ready for work).  I think it just truly takes time.  Now she will go occupy herself while I’m cooking dinner instead of laying right ON my feet.  I’m so proud that she is becoming more independent and confident.  Someone mentioned the idea of a distraction like a food release toy and that is a great tool that you can use.  Bully sticks and stuffed Kongs are what we use.  I think a nuclear bomb could go off while she’s hard at work on a Kong and she would not notice, haha!

We also had trouble getting her used to the crate.  She hated it at first and I never thought we’d get here, but now she goes in willingly.  We did kind of guide/gently push her in in the beginning and it hurt my heart, but I knew that we had to get her accustomed to it for her own good and now she likes it in there.  We thought at first that we had to put her in there all day while we were at work from the first day we got her and it wasn’t getting us anywhere.  It was too much at once for her and she was already house trained so we didn’t need to crate her for that reason.  We totally back-tracked and started over again with short periods and built up to sleeping in there at night.  Try putting him in while you are right there for only a few minutes and letting him out again, and work up from there.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Definitely separation anxiety.  Poor thing.  At least he loves you guys!! I learned that my dog had major separation anxiety when Fiance and I moved into our apartment in November.  We received a call about her excessive barking on the first weekend.  Apparently when we went grocery shopping, she wouldn’t stop barking the entire time.  We figure it’s because it was an unfamiliar place to her and everything and every sound was new.  We took action into our own hands though.  I bought a no bark collar for her that sprays citronella.  We always makes sure we put that on her when we leave the apartment.  She responded very well to it.  The first few times she wore it, she barked maybe once or twice.  Now?  Not a peep!  We also make sure to leave on the living room light and tv.  I usually give her a treat when I go out as well to keep her occupied.  =) Good luck with your new addition!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think the other posters have better advice than any I can offer, but I did want to say my dog did this too when we first got him– not if we left the room or at night, actually (he was crate trained when we got him as a rescue) but any time we left the apartment he would cry for a little while, loudly enough that once in a while we could hear him from the street outside our apartment and it just about broke our hearts. Then, eventually he just stopped doing it. He realized that we were coming home and he would go into his crate as soon as we asked him to go to his room, no cries, just ok, this is where I go for the next few hours. So it will get better!

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