(Closed) Dog vs Fiance (Long rant; need advice!)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 16
1641 posts
Bumble bee

Honestly a lot of what I see here is HIM disrespecting YOU, and the dogs. Not paying them attention, forcing you to clean everything up, and failing to see that Kali deserves a better environment is selfish.

If you choose to have children, will he act the same? Will you have to be the voice of reason in other similar situations in the future? Why are your well-earned belongings fair game to put in the dog room, but his stuff doesn’t?

Sometimes random individual issues can signal a major one when you look at the big picture. This will likely not be the only time you run into this with him. Just food for thought.

Post # 17
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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becomingsumner:  This is about more than just the dogs. Pay attention to what he is showing you with regard how he will be as a husband:

1) He doesn’t care about home maintenance. That would be a real breaker for me personally. 

2) He doesn’t care to compromise or make your life easier despite repeated attempts to come up with solutions. If he wants to keep the dog so damn bad you’d think he would work to alleviate some of your concerns.

3) He doesn’t want to lift a finger to take care of and interact with the dogs. I’m assuming you don’t want children? Because that is a big red flag if you do.


Post # 18
1552 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I would find Kali a home, it sounds like you have talked to him several times and he is not willing to help or budge. I agree with

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somethingbee: and 
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sept22insf: . He may only get worse when you have children.

Here is what I would do: find Kali a home without talking to him any further. After she is gone you may see your Fiance true character. Granted this may end your relationship but honestly, if his ego is that big you are better off on your own.

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