- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
I have a 7 month old cat, who is quite frankly, the best cat I have ever had. She likes to snuggle, but she is not needy (like some other cats I have had in the past.) If she wants attention, she seeks it out in a successful way…not by whining, etc. Plus, she’s a riot: sassy, smart, etc. As a result, she is a wonderful companion for Darling Husband and me. I love her to death.
My sister has a 6 month old male pug (who she insists on bringing EVERYWHERE.) I wouldn’t resent the situation so much if it didn’t affect me so much when I see her. I feel like every time we hang out, we need to find a dog friendly restaurant, or, she will bring him over to my house. The kicker: my cat HATES this dog. The first time they met, she went full alley cat on him because he came into her space too quickly. I don’t blame her…she was just protecting her territory. Every other time that he has come over, she just hides under the bed.
Here’s the situation: I’m going to do Christmas with DH’s family this year, so my mom is coming down (she lives a couple hours away), and my sister (who lives in the area) is coming with…you guessed it…her dog, and we are doing Christmas at my house (because it is the biggest.) I feel like a huge bitch if I tell her not to bring her dog, but honestly, it stresses my cat out, and it isn’t fair because that’s her house (in relation to the dog.) She shouldn’t have to hide under the bed the whole time. Also, my mom and family have never seen my beloved cat, and I’m sure they won’t see her this time, and write her off as a freak (they are dog people) which bums me out. I just wish she could have the chance to shine for once…at least in her own house.
Am I overreacting? Initially, I just looked disappointed when she asked if she could bring him, and told her I really wanted everyone to meet Abby Normal (my kitty) and it would be impossible if she was just hiding under the bed the whole time. But then, she kept pushing the issue with things like, “You just need to get her used to dogs.” As I don’t own any dogs and don’t plan on it for awhile, I don’t know why I need to do this. If I was feeling ballsy, I may have responded with, “You need to get your dog used to being alone for a few hours.”
Ugh. Sorry…I am getting worked up and stressed out just typing this and starting to ramble. Anyway…do any of you have experience integrating dogs and cats when the cat hates the dog? Is it even possible once the hate is established? And on another note, how do you establish some ground rules as to people bringing their dogs over? I don’t bring my cat everywhere I go, and to people’s houses, etc. What gives?!