Post # 1
Are your dogs allowed in bed and on furniture?
I used to have the rule that I would absolutely not tolerate dogs on furniture because they’re dirty, shed, and them just taking up space on the bed. And they make me hot at night.
My fiance allows our dogs (we have 3 medium sized ones) on the bed and I have accepted it by now but I don’t like it. At this point they’re so used to it though that I don’t even know how I’d train them not to sleep in bed with us anymore. I’d feel like a bad dog mom and they’d be heartbroken not being able to cuddle with us ….
One of the dogs was dumped as a little puppy and survived her first few months out in the woods. As soon as I got her she’d climb up on the couch and bed with us and look at us with her cute puppy eyes and being so thankful we rescued her. Now I regret ever allowing her to get on the furniture with us because it’s a hard habit to break now of course.
Post # 2
Our dog is allowed on all the furniture and the bed. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Post # 3
My dog is welcome wherever he wants to go. I figure it’s his house too. My parents allow dogs on the furniture with the exception of beds, because my mom is an incredibly light sleeper. She also doesn’t allow my dad on the bed – he has to sleep in another room. Haha
I think because of the way I grew up, I don’t think of dogs as “dirty”. I’m sure if I had that idea in my head, I’d think differently. But I’m also very lucky that my current dog is particularly clean. He’s very cool to the touch, never smells bad, and avoids doing things that get him dirty. Like he avoids mud at all costs. He’s almost 5 and I think I’ve had to give him a bath 3 times his entire life. My last dog was a giant, gross, hot, stinky mess. I still let him on the furniture but I wasn’t as keen on it.
You’re not a bad dog mom. Three medium sized dogs on the bed sounds like way too much! If the dogs are interfering with your sleep or making your bed gross, kick them out! It’s ok to do that. Get them a nice cozy bed and place it next to yours. You just have to be consistent. If your husband isn’t as strict about it, it’ll never work. They can absolutely learn to sleep in their own beds.
Post # 4
My dog is allowed anywhere during the day. We love cuddling with her on the couch or on the bed. The exception is when we actually sleep at night. I understand having the extra bodies in the bed is a lot! Your dogs might be sad at first but they’ll get used to it. Talk to your fiancé about it.
Post # 5
Nope our doggo and cats sleep in their pet beds. They don’t climb on furniture. We trained them not to. They each have a bed but often they’ll all climb on one and cuddle together. One particular cat has a habit of sitting on doggo’s head so it looks like doggo us wearing a cats butt as a hat.
If we want to cuddle with doggo we sit on the floor. If we want to cuddle cats we pick them up and they sit in our lap on the couch but never touch the couch.
Post # 6
My dog is 90 pounds. He is allowed on one couch but not the other, and absolutely not allowed in the bed. There would not be enough space for all 3 of us.
Post # 7
Of course! Why else do you think it’s called FURniture
Post # 8
If it were up to me our dog would sleep with us every night. She’s bigger though and likes to stretch out so she doesn’t fit or she gets uncomfortable and jumps off the bed and gets into her bed. My husband had her before he met me and she’s never been allowed to sleep in our bed. However, on weekends she’s welcome to jump in and cuddle.
She is allowed anywhere else though including couches or our dining room bench.
If you’re worried about the smell/shedding, I would suggest putting blankets down on your couches where the dogs lay down. Once a week, I clean all of those blankets with her blankets from her bed and I think that’s why our house doesn’t smell like dog.
Post # 9
I tried the blanket thing and that’s what we’re doing right now. It works out ok for now but certainly not ideal. The couch is still covered with hair as they’re quite the shedders :/ The house doesn’t smell thankfully since I brush them and vaccum daily but the hair is just never ending lol.
I think it is really impacting my sleep as I’m a light sleeper and every little movement wakes me up.
One dog destroys pet beds so that won’t be an option. Maybe old blankets on the floor will be ok as a bed for them….
Post # 10
Our dog is allowed everywhere in the house and in the evenings you’ll usually find him in our bed, sleeping there first. But having 3 medium sized ones in bed every night would make me feel too cramped. Making them a pseudo bed in your bedroom sounds like a great idea.
Post # 11
Our pets (a small dog and a large cat) are allowed wherever they want to go. They spend a lot of time on the couch with us. The dog bounces between our bed and her bed (on the floor right next to us) at night, depending on her mood. The cat spends part of each night in bed with us.
They aren’t outdoor pets, so I figure they’re not any grosser than I am. Plus, I come from a pet obsessed family, and I can’t imagine not cuddling them. In the mornings, our dog leaps up into bed with us, right in between us, and snuggles us awake while her tail goes bananas. It’s so sweet, and such a great way to start each day!
Post # 12
My big dog (~65 lbs) had her own sleep space. I bought her high end and very comfortable dog beds and she was very content to be on them instead of on furniture. I never trained her not to go on the furniture and honestly I wouldn’t have cared if she got up on it… but she preferred her beds (she had 3 in the house in different areas and another for camping/outside). She passed a few years ago and we rescued a 12 lb meatball who has run of the house. He uses his beds (as long as they are positioned in front of the fireplace or in the sunshine), but he insists on sleeping in the bed, he likes cuddling on the couch under blankets or laying on the back of the couch like a cat. I’m fine with it all, but if he was much bigger he wouldn’t be allowed in the bed.
Post # 13
cmsgirl : “One particular cat has a habit of sitting on doggo’s head so it looks like doggo us wearing a cats butt as a hat.”
Photo, please! I think we all need this now.
Post # 15
Edited to remove photo since this is my anon account…
We have two small dogs. They sleep on the couch all day and both sleep in bed with us. Before our lab passed away, she was allowed everywhere, too.