Post # 31
Our dog is not allowed on the furniture or on our bed. We love her like crazy and she is an important part of our family, but we prefer she sleep and spend her time on her dog bed and not our furniture. We both sleep better without her on our bed, and we can sit down on our furniture before going to work without being completely covered in her fur. Also we live in a part of the country with a huge tick problem. Even though her flea and tick meds are always up to date they still hitch a ride on her fur sometimes and I don’t want them to end up in my bed.
Post # 32
I don’t have a dog but if i did he would be allowed on everything. Our cats are allowed on anything they want.
Post # 33
I would have her in bed, but Himself is not keen and l have to say she is a light sleeping wriggly sort of dog, so…… she is allowed up in the early morning and lies next to me, on the outside. Since we have been getting up so much later these days there is a to more dog time in bed. She is clean and small and unsmelly and doesn’t shed.
Our last two dogs l did retrain not to sleep in/on the bed at night after years of doing so . It was hard but only took a few nights of getting up and putting them back in their own beds ( in our room of course). They were getting old and l worried about them jumping up / down and hurting themselves. TBH l don’t think it made them sad, tho it did make me sad of course.
As for cats, they would have scorned being actually in the bed and used to jump off with expressions of disdain when we ( especially Himself) came to bed.
Post # 34
Not a dog, but my large cat is allowed on the bed/counters/chairs- literally anywhere. We don’t care except if I’m cooking. Not sure if this will change when we buy a house and new furniture, but I think we’ll probably just put a blanket down in whatever spot she deems “hers” like we have in the past to minimize her fur sticking.
Post # 35
So as someone who grew up with a clear no animals on the furniture rule…I can’t imagine. But, out of somewhat morbid curiousity, how do you have sex if your dog is always in your bed? I can’t imagine wanting to have sex with a labrador chilling next to me. Sorry in advance, lockdown has made me so bored I am asking inappropriate questions.
Post # 36
I can’t speak for everyone, but it’s not a big deal AT ALL to say “get down”. The dog doesn’t mess with us when we’re having sex. In fact if we start kissing, he leaves. He doesn’t just lay there on the bed with us. 😂
Post # 37
haha! My husband goes to bed hours before I do. He gets up much earlier. By the time our dog and I come to bed, he’s asleep. If we’re in there having sex, the dog is in the living room!!!!!
Post # 38
We have 3 big dogs, we allow them on the bed but not on the couches. Luckily, 2 of the 3 are getting old enough where they just want their own space and rarely come up anyways… but our pitbull is a maaaajor snuggle bug and bed hog, so she’s up here every single night. I end up kicking her off the bed halfway through the night though. Totally agree with another bee, once I had a baby I feel like I want my own space at night… I already struggle with being woken up by a husband who moves like crazy in his sleep, so an 80 pound dog on top of that is just waaaay too many bodies in bed!
Post # 39
hahaha… there have been times me or my fiance have been stared down by one of them, kinda like “hey humans what are you doing, are you ok?” LOL
But no, typically the dogs get kicked out of the room for that
Post # 40
Our dog is only allowed on the couch, with a blanket, when invited. If he jumps up without an invitation he gets sent back to the floor (which he now knows so it hasn’t happened in years). On Sunday mornings we’ll help him up to snuggle in bed (he’s disabled and our bed is high so one of us has to hoist his 85lb ass up there lol) and most nights our daughter let’s him on her bed too but again – invitation only.
Post # 41
See, I like the invitation only rule. I ran into the issue though that before you know it they just hop up… how do you not confuse them as to when it is and isn’t ok to be on the furniture?
Post # 42
We can’t do four dogs in the bed. It would be too much. They sleep either on a bench at the foot of the bed, in dog beds to the side of the bed, or the floor. Now, our youngest sleeps in her crate next to the bed.
If you give each of your dogs a comfy alternative in each place (a nice squishy bed next to the couch and the bed), it’s easier to train them to stay off. “Go to your bed” will send ours straight to their little spots with no argument.
Post # 43
I think if I was going to do invitation only, I would do “training sessions” for it a couple times a day. Sit on your bed with some treats, and have your dogs sit on the floor. Once they’ve been sitting for a second, pat the bed and say “Ok, come up.” Reward with a treat. Then tell them “get down” and reward that with a treat as well. If the dog jumps up without permission, immediately say “No, get down” and do not reward it. When the dog is sitting patiently, repeat your “Ok, come up” command.
Ultimately, the dog needs to learn that it is allowed to sit patiently beside the bed and ask to come up. From there, you can say something like “No, go to bed” and it’ll know to go to its own sleeping area. Or, you can say “ok” and the dog will know it has permission.
Even though my dog is allowed in bed, there are definitely times when he’s annoying us and we tell him to get down. He knows to get down and go to his dog bed.
Post # 44
Our dog isn’t allowed on the furniture/bed. My husband is allergic to cats/dogs. He struggles with cats more so than dogs. He enjoys having a dog but we obviously want to manage the hair as much as we can so everyone is comfortable.
On the other hand, our dog is extremely well trained. Part of how we trained her was that she has her own dog beds in each area of the house. She knows those spaces are her spaces and I truly think that is vital for her. Certain breeds are more protective than others and certain breeds can be more insecure than others. I tend to gravitate to those breeds which is why giving them their own spaces can really boost their self security and help with training to deter unfavorable behavior (guarding for example).
Ultimately, we all have different opinions on what works in our households. So, it really just comes down to what works for you. If it’s bothering you then look into training. It may be more difficult to train now than earlier when you got them but it’s still 100% possible.
Post # 45
- Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn
Our dog is allowed in bed with us but not on the couch. Her hair gets imbedded in the fibers of the couch and it’s a pain to get out. I have to literally pick the hairs out with tweezers. Next time we’ll get a different fabric on the couches because other than that I don’t really mind her being on them.