Post # 1
ahhhhh mannnnnnn…i just sent our Save-The-Date Cards yesterday and one of my dear dear friends who i’ve know for years but originally met at work just posted on her facebook status that she is “saving the date for miss & mr bestios (but our real names) great job on the cards love the stamp…” yadayada….which is REALLY sweet, i so appreciate that she was that excited about it. thing is….she and i have many mutal work related friends and acquaintances…our industry is a very small world…some are invited, some aren’t. some that aren’t might think they should be… some are on the “b-list” cuz we want to have them, but aren’t sure we’ll have room so we didn’t send a STD. now they’ll know they were b-listed : (
am i crazy to be spazzing about this? i really didn’t anticipate anyone posting on their own facebook status. maybe posting something on my wall but i can control that, and it they aren’t my facebook friend they won’t even see it.
sometimes, the internet is stupid.
Post # 3
just let her know how you feel. And quickly, before any damage is done.
Give her a call and thank her for saying she likes your STD, but that -while you would have loved to invite everyone you both know- that just isn’t feasible, and you’d appreciate her being discrete. Make it like a fun secret – she’s on your short list of good friends, but she needs to keep it on the DL so others won’t have their feelings hurt.
Post # 4
Awww. I feel your pain. I’ve had similar things posted on my FB wall and I find it very frustrating. I think you just have to hope that people are adults and undestand that weddings are expensive and not everyone can be invited. Chin up, this won’t seem like a big deal in a couple of weeks.
Post # 5
What a pain!! Do you know her well enough that you could ask her to delete the post? Just explain your situation to her…surely she will understand. Oh! Also let her know that you are touched and it means a lot that she is so excited about your special day! =)
Post # 6
I’d let her know how you feel like the others have said too…but let her know how much you were touched so she doesn’t take offense! Haha, personally I wasn’t really ashamed to post my Save-The-Date Cards and invites on facebook because I designed them and wanted to get people’s opinions…maybe I shouldn’t have though. haha
Post # 7
yeah, i called her and started it with “i LOVE you for being so excited about my lil ol card and I know I’m probably being crazy but”…..so know she is trying to figure out how to take it down. she thought her statement was cyptic enough noone would know.
*yeeeesh* sometimes it’s like a there is a landmine at every turn!
Post # 8
yeha i have had to delete a few really excited nice awesome wall comments because we are having a small wedding and i dont want people to be mad or offended. but the folks who i did invite understand when i send messages along the lines of “please dont post this on fb” and kinda feel like they are in an exclusive club or something LOL
Post # 9
I have had to delete comments off of my wall as well. I just explain that it’s a small wedding and I don’t want others’ feelings hurt who weren’t invited. Definitely stressed me out at first!