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- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
Out of curiousity, has anyone on here had a biological first child, and adopted the second? Is that common, or would it be weird to have one kid biologically and the other through adoption? I would love to hear your experience! Eventually, we really want two kids but I’m not sure I want to go through pregnancy a second time due to career effects, as well as age (we’re planning for a second child around age 34).
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akshali2000 : I do have friends who have had one or more bio children and then adopted. I have even more friends who did not even begin TTC until after age 34 for numerous reasons including later marriage.
As a working mother of three I can share that the majority of career effects take place over the years after the children are born and not during and immediately following pregnancy.
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akshali2000 : I think you should adopt a child because you truly want to adopt, not because you think 34 is too old (it isn’t). Also, you might have an easy, comfortable pregnancy and look forward to doing it again, you never know. But either way, lots of people have both biological and adopted children in their families. Google mommy bloggers and I’m sure you’ll find some. Ruthie Hart at the Chronicles of Ruthie Hart is one that comes to mind- she has two biological kids and recently adopted an infant.
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MrsAKSkier : Thank you for sharing this blog! I’m really enjoying reading through it.
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akshali2000 : We haven’t yet but we’ve talked about it if we want more than one child due to the problems getting pregnant and the high risk pregnancy we’ve had. It’s on our list of things to look at.
Post # 6
My sis knows someone who had issues with conceiving, so after having a biological daughter, she and her husband are currently going through the adoption process for their second child: http://www.jakeandtobi.com/adoption/
Post # 8
a friend of mine was a biological child and had 2 adopted sisters.
i know a woman who had grown children and started adopting physically disabled children after her children where out of the house. (we met bc one of her adopted children has the same disability as my brother)
i am pregnant with my 2nd and i will be 36 soon. 34 is not too old to have children. i know plenty who were pregnant in their 40’s.
adoption is a long, expensive journey. make sure you want to do it and are doing it for the right reasons.