(Closed) Doing garter while kids present

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I saw it at plenty of weddings as a kid without a second thought. It is a long tradition. Don’t overthink it 

Post # 3
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Newbee

I’m an adult and the garter makes me uncomfortable. I’d skip it. It just seems so awkward, and at least in my area no one really does it any more.

 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I guess it depends on how you plan on doing the garter toss. Most brides I’ve seen do it just put the garter around thier ankle and the guy just grabs it with his hand real quick. Not really inappropriate at all. If your partner is planning on sticking his head up your dress and making a big show of it I would side eye it whether children are there or not honestly.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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Imsouldeep1989 :  The garter removal and tossing doesn’t have to be trashy. When it is, it is a conscious choice on the part of the bride and groom.

You can lower the garter to below your knee, he can reach it without lifting your dress at all.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

Not a fan of trashy garter tosses. However, if this is the route you choose, it is not your place to worry about the kids, it is their parents. If you want to warn them ahead of time, so they can take precaustions, well….that is awful nice of you. 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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Imsouldeep1989 :  It’s embarassing enough to watch as an adult. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Like PPs have mentioned, they can be pretty cringe-worthy anyway. But IMO if you take your children to a wedding, you have to expect that they will see a few antics. I don’t think you should try and censor your wedding – if parents are uncomfortable they can attend without children, or distract them. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think it should be scrapped, with out without kids!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

I find them horrifying as an adult. If you must do one then as others have said you can lower it on your leg.

The last wedding we went to had one and no one wanted to catch it. Thinking about the general age of your guests maybe in order. Everyone at the wedding we went to were married or in a long term relationship. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Woah lots of haters on this! We did a garter toss with him under the dress. No one saw my junk. Kids are even in the background of the photos …. It was fine.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Yeah, look it’s not my thing. I’m not a prude, I just find it outdated and yucky poos. There are no examples of “good” garter tosses IMO

But if I went to a wedding of someone I loved and they had it I would cast no shade nor think anything of kids being there

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

People on this forum are generally anti-garter toss. I think it’s fine, and totally fine with kids. I mean what is so bad about it? A kid will not care. It would be up to the parents, not you. You do you girl, I love the garter toss. It’s flirty and fun and that’s exactly who I am lmao.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

The whole garter toss thing gives people the heebly jeeblies because it originated as a symbol that the bride and groom were going to consummate their marriage. The groom then tosses it to the single men as if to say, “I’m going to bed this female, here, have a piece of her undergarments as proof.” 

However, kids have no idea about any of that. They won’t think twice about it.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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Imsouldeep1989 :  We did a garter toss and had 4 kids at our wedding (only the ones that were part of the ceremony). DH’s head stayed outside of my dress and I secretly stashed a pair of bright yellow minions boxers in my garter that DH didn’t know about. Kids thought it was hilarious when DH pulled those out instead of a dainty garter. It was very kid friendly.

We haven’t received our professional photos yet but my aunt caught the look on DH face when he pulled out the boxers and it cracks me up! 🙂

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