Post # 1
I’m having a bit of a breakdown here! I feel like I’ve been planning this whole wedding by myself. My Fiance has been great – seems interested in everything I have shown him so far. But everyone else… meh.I have a very small wedding party. Only my Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man. Neither of them live in the same town as I do, which makes it difficult for them to help me, with anything. I sent them both emails today asking if I could make an appointment at the Bridal Salon this weekend so that they can order their bridesmaid dresses. One got back to me saying her body isn’t quite ready and I haven’t heard back from the other yet.
I called my mother tonight to see if she wanted to go look at flowers and invitations with me. She said “yea, maybe in a couple of weeks. Its months and months away…” When I told her she seemed a little disinterested, she told me I should call her back when I’m in a better mood.
I feel like I am doing everything by myself, and I hate it. Anyone else feel this way?!
Post # 3
I hate to say it, but your wedding isn’t going to mean nearly as much to anyone but you. That said, it doesn’t mean people won’t GET excited later. I say plan, keep your ideas on pinterest or start a blog, and show it to people when they ask.
Post # 4
@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: Thank you. It took me a good 20 minutes for the “your wedding isn’t going to mean nearly as much to anyone but you” part to sink in. But I think it’s just what I needed to hear. 🙂
Post # 5
@mrsaponte: I feel the same way. the way I look at is it at least I do not have to worry about everyone giving me their 2 cents. I have read on here of horror stories from brides who have no say in their wedding and it makes me appreciate I am doing this solo.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
And that’s okay. I’ve decided that I don’t want my wedding to be an endless list of chores for my friends. I want them to come, wear a pretty dress, and support me on my big day.
Once in a while, I wish my mother was a little more involved, but I’m an adult and live 7 hours away from her (and she’s almost 70). It doesn’t make sense for her to be deeply involved.
I will say that I had some of my best vendor experiences when I met with them alone. My florist meeting lasted 2 hours because we were chatting so much. She even let me down into her storage room of vessels and I got to see her ribbon library…and her dog and cats. I’m not sure I would have gotten so much of her time if I had been with someone else. 🙂
Post # 7
My mom is super involved (which can be a good thing or a bad thing, as you see on here!) but some of my BMs aren’t so much. I had a few phone calls and emails about it today, and I was really pissed about it, but what can ya do at the end of the day. That’s what the bee is here for!