(Closed) Doing something special for those not attending

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@tamse: I think that would be sweet. I think it would also be nice to send them a photo(s) of the wedding when you get back, or maybe put together an album online and send the link to the guests that couldn’t come. I think that would be appreciated. I know we couldn’t go to a friend’s Destination Wedding but she still sent us a little card with a wedding photo after they got back (we sent them a card/present), I thought that was really nice of them 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d use it as an opportunity to ask them where they’d like pictures sent to and in which format, so something along the lines of: “We’re so sorry you can’t make it; you’ll be in our thoughts on the big day. Please email me at XXX and let us know if you would like photographs of the wedding and where we can send them to (either prints or digital files–your choice).” The only reason I’m saying that is because I have a few *gems* in my family who interpreted us sending our pics from our private ceremony a “nyah nyah na-nyah nyah, you weren’t the-ere” move and would interpet a note like you’re thinking of as a passive-aggressive move on our part as trying to weasel out a gift. But that’s our family. If you don’t have such gems, a standard note is a nice gesture.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

We’re going to try to set up a webcast so people can watch at home if they can’t make it to our Destination Wedding 🙂

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