(Closed) Doing too much?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is this asking too much?
    Yes, even though they are your friends four whole days of activities is a lot : (5 votes)
    29 %
    Maybe, you have to make sure you're clear that not all activities are "mandatory" : (9 votes)
    53 %
    No, they are your friends and they can give up four days. You're asking them to do fun things! : (2 votes)
    12 %
    I have another opinion which I will explain. : (1 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it doesn’t hurt to put it out there.  I’m sure if you tell your ladies it isn’t mandatory then they won’t feel pressured to go.  I think you should just let everyone know and see what kind of response you get.  Plus, even if they don’t all attend you already said there will be others attending so it’s not like your birthday festivities will be a complete bust.

    Post # 4
    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

    When is the bachelorette party?  Could that be a bach/b-day party?  If you’re concerned that it is too much would you be willing to skip one?  (Birthday or bachelorette?)  Could the birthday party be on a more agreeable day, like the weekend before?  So they wouldn’t have to leave work early? 

    I don’t know if having  a b-day party is too much, but  I wouldn’t encourage them to leave work early for it.  That might be a bit much.

    Post # 6
    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I don’t believe asking them to spend that much time with you is a lot to ask, but I think it might be a bit much to ask them to leave work/miss work on Thursday and Friday afternoons.

    Perhaps you could suggest to your mom having a birthday/girls night for you a few weeks beforehand on a Saturday night?  

    Post # 7
    108 posts
    Blushing bee

    I agree with above– I wouldn’t mind an extra night of fun, but would have problems if it’s interfering with work.  I would talk to them…. perhaps the night on the town could start later or be a little abbreviated. 

    Post # 8
    2434 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    It sounds like fun to me!

    Post # 9
    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Since your mom seems to want to make your birthday a great one, how about you suggest just the two of you doing something? Maybe she can take you to a nice dinner and have some quality mother/daughter time before the craziness of the wedding/married life takes over. I know another night out with your girls would be fun, but I think suggesting doing something with your mom might make her day (granted, I know nothing about you or her).

    Also, and this is just me, I know I don’t like going out hard on weeknights. Maybe if it’s just a dinner (and by the way, is your mom paying for this whole thing?) then the girls would be more inclined to go. It wouldn’t take time from work on Thursday and they wouldn’t be too tired for work Friday morning. Either way, have a fab birthday and wedding day!

    Post # 10
    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I’m also getting married the same week as my birthday.

    My Fiance and I are planning to do a quiet date on my actual birthday then when everyone gets into town we’re going to celebrate my birthday along with all of us being together. I think if you make it clear that it’s not mandatory then a party would be okay, but I can’t expect our friends to take more time off work at the same time.

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