(Closed) Doing what I want and dealing with the fallout later. [Rant]

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Stick to your guns. Why hasn’t your Fiance talked to his parents and made it clear that they are welcome to be involved but ultimately the final decisions lie with you and him?

Post # 4
8862 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@PetiteChicken:  my mom, who is paying for my wedding, wants a more lavish affair than i do.  everytime i say that it is too much, she tells me this is what she wants.  i think, step back, and say if that is where you choose to waste your money that’s fine.  i don’t think it is neccessary for one freaking day. a lot of things i have completely vetoed like chargers.

right now we are arguing over uplights.  i don’t think they are worth the cost.



Post # 6
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

My question is why is she involved at all? That initital sum of money should have had a clear expectation that it would be used for XYZ and then Mother-In-Law was out of the picture. I assume you have already let her know you don’t want any more money or help from her? If so, you did a great job handing the rest off to your Fiance and letting him deal with her. She’s wayyyyy too involved and needs to butt the heck out.

Post # 7
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Unfortunately, most people equate DIY/handmade with crap, and think that if you’re going the DIY route, it’s all about being cheap. We went DIY because it’s less expensive, but also because I can make exactly what I want. Like you, I made my veil. My bridal salon wanted $60 (!!!) for a piece of plain millinery netting–I made a pearl-embellished birdcage veil for less than $5 worth of supplies.

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