Post # 62
Thank you !
Many people can sing beautifully without taking singing classes. Many people are extremely talented when it comes to painting (I’m thinking about my aunt who can do amazing portraits) and never took painting classes. Of course to the professional eye, they might miss technical aspects professionnal are trained to see/hear, but honestly, who cares ? They’re not entering a competition or making a career out of this, they’re self-taught artists who only want to share their passion and please the people who hire them if they’re lucky enough to have recognition and receive a small income from their art. And to me that’s all that matters in the end : if I’m happy with the results and I allowed someone’s talent to shine.
you said you don’t like when people think they can be ”photographers” if they happen to have a camera. But you also said you know pros who won competitions with their Iphones and it’s not about the gear … isn’t that exactly what brides who chose not to go pro, for budget reasons mainly, are saying as well ? That it’s not about the gear, but rather about the talent, the passion and the result. And you can get all that to the couple’s satisfaction without hiring a pro.
Beautiful story. And I agree with the message behind it . 😉
Post # 63
That is partially what I was thinking about. That is a very beautiful story and reinforces the thought that these “material” things aren’t what truly matters in the end. It reminds me on my mom’s wedding photos. Only a few years after they got married they moved halfway across the country and when they were unpacking she realized that a box or two had gone missing – one with her wedding album in it. She was of course upset but she did have this one framed picture of them together. They’ve been married over 30 years now and not having all the pictures to look through hasn’t impacted their marriage at all.
Post # 64
@JessicaJupiter: “when I had a thread about not being able to afford food (before I found a good deal with my venue) I was told to cut anything else but food, in this thread it is now cut anything else but photography! I’ve seen threads where people flip flop between “this is YOUR day so don’t cut that” to “you need to thing of the GUESTS and not yourself”.”
If I’m remembering your food thread correctly, people weren’t saying “cut anything else other than food,” but they were saying that feeding your guests was important, and it was more important than nice tablecloths or decor which is where you were getting hung up. Everyone prioritizes wedding stuff differently, but typically food and photography are two of the biggest common priorities.
Your wedding day is one day of your life that goes by so quickly — pictures and videos are what keep those memories alive. After the wedding day is over, they’re all you really have. And since your wedding day goes by so quickly, you’re not going to be wanting to spend the whole day behind a camera, and I’m sure your guests won’t want the stress of trying to get the perfect pictures either. I think what most people in this thread are saying is that they’d hate to see you disappointed after the wedding if all of the pictures you get back are unusable or there are moments that were missed.
It sounds like photography is really important to you, and having even a $200 photographer for a couple of hours would take a lot of stress off of you, knowing that there was at least one person who was 100% dedicated to taking pictures and knew at least something about what they’re doing.
Post # 65
That one thread wasn’t only posted on here – that was posted somewhere else originally where I was told to forget about the rings or the whole event entirely and elope. The thread on this website actually had a lot better and more constructive feedback than cut anything but the food! I was really referring to threads in general on here. I can’t really cite anything specific at this time but I do recall comments on certain things that essentially would have the clash of it is your day vs guests.
I was just commenting on how there is a fine line to many brides on spending on the things that matter for the guests vs spending on the things that matter to you. Everyone has the certain things that shouldn’t be cut and not everyone agrees on them!
Post # 66
When it comes to critical issues of your guests basic comfort, then yes, you need to be thinking of your guests. Does everyone have a chair to sit in? Enough food to eat? Something to drink? Are you being as considerate of their time as possible? There are adequate bathroom facilities, it won’t be freezing cold or boiling hot where you’re having your wedding? Basically, will your guests be comfortable? If the answers to all of those questions are ‘yes,’ basically everything else becomes “your day.”
As long as your guests have the necessitites provided for, any extra money is yours to use however you want. You want giant crystal centerpieces? Awesome. Huge flower arrangements? Go for it. An expensive dress? Cool. It’s only when brides start prioritizing those extras over basic necessities for their guests that they usually get a lecture on their guests comfort. So like prioritizing table decor over having enough food for everyone? Not a great idea. That’s the point I’m trying to make.
Post # 67
You could try hiring a student photographer for free who wants to build their portfolio? My first wedding I shot I did it for free and I loved it, it was a big stepping stone to where I am now. Of course they weren’t as good as the photos I take now but they were actually decent and I had professional gear and from the sounds of it, you aren’t really looking for great looking photos so that might be a good choice for you.
Post # 68
I think your idea is good. I simply refuse to spend thousands of dollars for a photographer for my wedding day. No way! How many times can you look at pictures that were taken whether it was a wedding day or any other special day. We will have my step daughter’s husband take pictures of us. He has all the professional equipment and takes beautiful pictures. I trust he will take good pictures of us. I’m also placing disposable cameras on the tables and I’m sure some of the pictures that will be taken by these cameras will be fun and nice. I will take a look at the pics that were taken and then print out the ones I like most. Of all the pictures that will be taken that day, I am sure I will find a few good ones that I will be able to put in a nice frame and enjoy looking at and it won’t have cost THOUSANDS of dollars to get those pics.
Post # 69
Well I’m a firm believer that no one should go into debt for a wedding. You obviously don’t have the budget for a pro photographer, that’s okay. Not everyone does, and even some who do don’t find the value in it. I am 100% on board with having the wedding you can afford. My only gripe comes when people have a wedding at the expense of their guests comfort. For example, when people can’t afford to provide a dinner/meal for their guests yet insist on having an afternoon/evening wedding – in leu of something during the day with cake/punch reception.
Like all aspects of the wedding, you just have to manage your expectations. You can’t go into it expecting pro looking images – it just won’t happen no matter how “nice” or “pro” the camera is. I’m not here to argue with you over what kind of camera you have, although I can understand the frustraition of others becuase if I had a dollar for every time someone told me their “friend had a pro camera and takes really nice pictures” I’d be rich. 9 times out of 10 it’s someone with a Canon Rebel shooting on auto with a kit lens. A a wedding photographer, it’s just insulting to hear those things when you know you’ve spent a lot of time and money to get to where you are. For me, photography is one of the most important things because I am a photographer – but that doesn’t mean it’s that way for everyone. Does it sound like a disaster idea? For me, it would be. I know that I would not be happy with the final result, but it’s not my wedding.
All that being said, even still, I wouldn’t saddle any of my family or guests with the job of taking the photos at my wedding. Your guests will produce the same quality of work as the $200 craigslist photographer will, so please be kind to your guests and let them enjoy your wedding as a guest – not working.
Post # 70
You can’t go into it expecting pro looking images – it just won’t happen no matter how “nice” or “pro” the camera is. I’m not here to argue with you over what kind of camera you have, although I can understand the frustraition of others becuase if I had a dollar for every time someone told me their “friend had a pro camera and takes really nice pictures” I’d be rich. 9 times out of 10 it’s someone with a Canon Rebel shooting on auto with a kit lens. A a wedding photographer, it’s just insulting to hear those things when you know you’ve spent a lot of time and money to get to where you are.